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#2280706 12/01/09 11:22 AM
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Ok, this has to be one of the stupidest articles ever and don't ask my why I read it. The link is here: http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/reuters/091201/tecnology/net_us_britain_bankers_adultery_life_tech

It's about how bankers are having more affairs during the recession. Why bankers are so special, I don't know, but here's the top 10 list of reasons:

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A list of the top 10 reasons bankers gave for having affairs follows:

1. To feel loved

2. For the thrill

3. Unstable home life

4. To escape the mundane

5. Ego boost

6. To avoid costly divorce

7. To lavish attention on someone

8. Because they feel entitled

9. Because they can/opportunity

10. Peer pressure


Better avoid bankers. Or all waywards for that matter!
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Originally Posted by Tabby1
Can you say justification?
I can say it.... I'm not so sure I can spell it.

And #6 on that list makes no sens at all.


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I can understand how having a boring job that is also very stressful could be a justification for getting some excitement in your life by having an affair. Going for a drink after work, getting drunk and taking an opportunity when it presents itself is all too easy. Not an excuse though.


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OUCH. My WH is a banker, and he's in the running right now for the worst wayward on the board today. The list applies except for #3. He left a stable home, a loving wife, great kids, no debt, wonderful neighborhood, outstanding reputation, devouted parents, admiring peers for a twice divorced bimbo who's bankrupting him and sending him photos of her va jay jay.


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Holyheart I thought of you immediately when I saw this. I was questioning #3 myself. I mean, if you are a banker you likely not only have a good salary, but you also understand the value and know how to manage money. If for some reason you don't, you are surrounded by people who can help. There is no reason you would have an "unstable" home life. Unhappy, perhaps, but unstable?

Can you imagine these people actually stating these responses on a survey??? UGHH!!!

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I still don't understand #6



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#6 has to be way-logic of some sort. In the real world, costly Divorces can be avoided more easily by NOT having an affair but perhaps it's different in fantasy way-land.

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Originally Posted by Gack1
I still don't understand #6

#6 is, I'm unhappy in my marriage. I'd be happier with someone else, but I'd lose at least half of my stuff in a divorce. So what I'll do is get a girlfriend and stay married. That way I can be with someone else and not lose half my stuff.

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LOL..bankers are unique. MrRollieEyes


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Originally Posted by Vity
Originally Posted by Gack1
I still don't understand #6

#6 is, I'm unhappy in my marriage. I'd be happier with someone else, but I'd lose at least half of my stuff in a divorce. So what I'll do is get a girlfriend and stay married. That way I can be with someone else and not lose half my stuff.

I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.


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Regarding #6. My take is that bankers look at everything as dollars and cents. And divorce means you pretty much lose half of all your investments and retirements and assets. And bankers know how long it takes to recoup value in today's market at today's rates so avoiding a divorce keeps everything on their side of the ledger.

EXCEPT my banker wayward is ignoring these very principles since he's filed and he's still incurring huge debt. But he is stalling at coming up with a settlement. And he's definitely living on the edge. I just worry that he has a plan to incur so much debt that he's forced to declare bankruptcy and lose his job.

Then... he gets out of paying the amount of support he would have had to pay if he stays in his current job.

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Originally Posted by Vity
Originally Posted by Gack1
I still don't understand #6

#6 is, I'm unhappy in my marriage. I'd be happier with someone else, but I'd lose at least half of my stuff in a divorce. So what I'll do is get a girlfriend and stay married. That way I can be with someone else and not lose half my stuff.

I guess they don't think it through clearly and realize that having an affair is likely to LEAD TO a divorce. But, like Tabby said, that is "way-logic" for ya! rotflmao


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Perhaps they carry the entitlement of the bailout with them.

"I'm too special to be allowed to fail, so I'm special enough to have a skanky OW too"

You wouldn't believe the flak(sp?) I catch for saying any woman who sleeps with a married man is a tramp.


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Originally Posted by Holyheart
Regarding #6. My take is that bankers look at everything as dollars and cents. And divorce means you pretty much lose half of all your investments and retirements and assets. And bankers know how long it takes to recoup value in today's market at today's rates so avoiding a divorce keeps everything on their side of the ledger.

EXCEPT... If you look at recent banking activities and the current economy, one might be hard-pressed to look on bankers as sound managers of fiscal policy...


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I agree, Fred. WH... the banker... was fiscally responsible with our money and the bank's money. Now I find that he mortgaged us to the eyeballs, lent his "friends" money off both our home equity line and -- get this -- out of our children's savings accounts, gave OW money to pay off her debts and to run her business, and is now gambling heavily.

He used to be a sound manager of fiscal policy at home but you can see where the affair led him. I wonder what's happening at the bank? Is his judgement under question? I did hear that a few customers left him because they were unhappy with his new attitude -- like giving up his wife of 24 years for a skanky ho, disowning his teenage kids, bragging about his poker skills, etc.

His parents are afraid he might turn to embezzling to pay the bills. I would never think this would happen, but it's that darn slippery slope....


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Maybe we need to start calling D!ck....something else.

Palpatine, maybe. Nah, that's too long...


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Originally Posted by Tabby1
7. To lavish attention on someone


skeptical

SERIOUSLY???.....

Now this one I don't understand at all.....they couldn't do this to their WIVES????.... grumble

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Originally Posted by Holyheart
His parents are afraid he might turn to embezzling to pay the bills. I would never think this would happen, but it's that darn slippery slope....

I don't think this is too far off base. Your WH has really lost it, and is going headlong into a buzz saw at an alarming rate. I think he is going to be pretty desperate at some point.


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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

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