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Good news. Set up call with Steve or any of the Harley's. Don't bring WW here yet.
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I cant stand how she just acts like we never talked and everything is fine. She has no idea how disrespected and disgarded I feel. If she could live in my shoes for a day, she couldn't handle it. How do I handle this for another 5 months?
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Did she do something today that makes you feel this way? Or are you talking about a general attitude that she has that is frustrating you?
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Today there was zero mention of the coversation we had last night. Her generaql attitude is that I will be no matter what and she is going to take as much time as she wants to figure out what makes her happy. Ironic, last night she agreed that ideally she would be truly in love with the father of her children, so didn't she just realize would would make her happy? I am so sick of how she whats to feel different and she is going to wait until she does until she invests anything.
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Well, she knows WHAT she wants, she just doesn't know HOW to get it.
This is where YOU come in. You lead her into MB principles. Buy the books...fill out the ENs questionaire together.....set up an appointment w/ the Harleys...
You still intend to set up an appointment, right?
Have you read any of his books?
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CTI,
Most M's survive infidelity. But, only a very few recover from them.
That's b/c most folks don't know about MB.
You've found MB. Your W is open to talking w/ the Harleys.
You're on the recovery road...just keep walking down it...
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Really bad night, went to a family party and felt totally ignored and unwanted. I started dropping LBs and expectations surfaced. I told her she needs to decide to decide and Im tired of the limbo. What do you do when she says, "I m trying to have faith in us, Im doing all I can do right now"? She is killing me slowly with her lack of compassion. ICANT TAKE THIS
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BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Plan A and then Plan B. You need to have the confidence of a well-done Plan A - even if it's short - behind you before you go dark. Three months start to finish should be your goal.
Apologize for what you said, and carry on being your best you. Today's a whole new day.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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She actually approached me last night, very remorseful and asked if we could just enjoy each other and reduce the pressure and expectations we have on improving the M faster.
We are in the schedulng process with the Harley's, does anything have feedback on working directly with Steve or the Daughter of the Harley's. Strengths/weaknesses? Would my wife relate better to a female? I've heard great things about Steve but nothing about Jennifer. Any help fromthe vets would be so appreciated.
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Any feeback from vets on Jennifer as a marriage coach?
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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I've never heard anything but great things about her.
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Thanks Marsh, I really appricate your time, thank you for taking a interest.
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Sure thing, Can.
Be sure to keep posting and let us know how it goes w/ the Harleys. I'm very happy you are going to talk to them. And definitely want to hear how it goes for you.
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We have a session on Thursday night with Jennifer. I am debating on if I should just let my wife have the session all to her self since I am here, they mentioned it was possible to spilt the session but I wondering if doing that will water down the session.
I don't know how long I can afford to continue to work with the Harley's because money is so tight.
I think my wife is nervous about Thursday. We were asked to complete the love bank survey seperately and familiarize ourselves with the Basic Concepts.
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Hmmmmmm, maybe split the session in her favor...60/40?
You definitely need to talk to Jennifer too.
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Nervous about the session with Jennifer Harley on Thursday night. Can any vets provide some insight into what can be expected from the first session?
Marsh I think your right, should I go first to provide a clearer picture of what we are going through because of her fog or do you think it will look like I primed the pump for my W portion?
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Marsh, I keep meaning to ask about your story, how did you end up here?
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
WW wants divorce 3/21/10
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Nervous about the session with Jennifer Harley on Thursday night. Can any vets provide some insight into what can be expected from the first session? Start a new thread titled, "Meeting w/ Jennifer tomorrow night, can anyone tell me what I can expect?"
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Marsh, I keep meaning to ask about your story, how did you end up here? I had an EA. Just about lost my everloving mind. Found MB, established NC, and then told BH.
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Wow, I could only dream of my W being as proactive as you were, good for you. Are you in recovery?
BH 34 (ME)
WW 37
EA (4 months) DD 2/1/09
NC - Never (They work together)
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