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Does anyone know the difference between eblaster and spector pro?
They look the same except spector pro blocks stuff.
Same price.
Me - 34
W - 37
C - 7, 7, 3
Married - 9yrs
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Eblaster is a product from the company called Spector Pro. They have two versions I think. One you monitor from the computer you are monitoring, and eblaster sends reports to your email. I have eblaster for Mac.
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Has anyone here ever confronted Other Man? I seriously want to unleash some pent up anger. Yes, it is a good idea to confront the OM. It scares him and lets him know you are going to lie down easy. Make as much trouble as possible for him. When you meet him, it is important to control your emotions and ask him what his intentions are. Let him know you will fight for your marriage and will have him hauled into court to give testimony under oath about his affair if this goes to a divorce. is the OM married? If so, his wife should be told about the affair. Additionally, his parents should also be told.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Does anyone know the difference between eblaster and spector pro?
They look the same except spector pro blocks stuff.
Same price. eblaster will EMAIL the reports; spectorpro reports have to be retrieved from the actual computer. With eblaster, you can also change the settings from another computer.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Most OM do not want the trouble that comes with a married woman, and many will dump her over the first sign of conflict. My H's OW dumped him on D-day when I confronted her. [of course, I sort of told her that the affair was OVER in my special way.  ]
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Has anyone here ever confronted Other Man? I seriously want to unleash some pent up anger. Yes, it is a good idea to confront the OM. It scares him and lets him know you are going to lie down easy. Make as much trouble as possible for him. When you meet him, it is important to control your emotions and ask him what his intentions are. Let him know you will fight for your marriage and will have him hauled into court to give testimony under oath about his affair if this goes to a divorce. is the OM married? If so, his wife should be told about the affair. Additionally, his parents should also be told. Interesting. I was never advised to confront the OM. I was told to send him a copy of the Plan B letter (with the P.S. as suggested in SAA). Perhaps that's because WW was already moving out?
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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Interesting. I was never advised to confront the OM. I was told to send him a copy of the Plan B letter (with the P.S. as suggested in SAA). Perhaps that's because WW was already moving out? Wasn't he laying up in a hospital??
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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All this just confirms my line of thinking. I am setting up an appointment with a P.I. tomorrow.
Since this is not his OM�s country he is going to be hard to nail down. I�m going to calculate just the right time to take my pound of flesh when the P.I. gets a pattern worked out. Dude travels on a work visa, is there anything there that I might be able to use? Meaning: is there anybody I can report him to when it hits the fan? This might be something to take up with a lawyer.
I may not be back here until tomorrow. If so, I�ll see everybody in the morning.
Formerly timetofly.
I thought that a change was in order to start the new year. It was time for me to fly after all.
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