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Oops.... I misspelled "come." [I bad!!]
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Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Actually, I was thinking of a montage from the two of them. I've got several photos over the two years ending with the money shots of each of them.
"Oh, Come all Ye Unfaithful"... love, D!ck and Bimbo 
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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D!ck on a string .... heretofore known as DOS
a shiny new MB acronym 
Oh my gosh, wasn't that something the actor did? Can't think of his name but he was Kung Foo..... It was David Carradine who ended up strangling himself with some weird kinky play with rope or string. Goodbye "grasshopper". Maybe that was his pet name for DOS...
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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I've got several photos over the two years ending with the money shots of each of them.  Hey, I think we have the answer to your financial problems. . . do you have any cheesy music tracks lying around?
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Exactly what I was thinking. There are people who pay money for that sort of thing. LOL at the "I thought it was his thumb" comment. If thats all the enthusiasm he could muster for her.... 
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
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Who are these people and how can I contact them? lol
Yep... I can sell the money shots for -- er -- MONEY. I can see the headlines now... Desperate Mom Sells Photos of STBX H and OW to Buy a Turkey for Christmas Dinner.
Of course the money shots may come in handy down the line. After the D is final, I was thinking of sending out a "Thank You for your support" email FROM D!ck and Bimbo to their friends, HER family and their associates.
I mean... really... are these two playing with a full deck when they know good and well that I can access this email account? If they're messing with me, then they're stupid because I just keep gathering info. and ammo for when the time is right.
Patience is MY virtue.
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Indeed it is.
Anything noteworthy happened besides seeing the Thumb?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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why don't we start a website where BS can upload pics of their waywards or errr pics of various sizes and shapes!
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
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Good morning Holy,
How are you doing?
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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Thanks for checking on me, Queenie. I got up early today and braved the crowds at the mall. Unfortunately, I can't keep throughts of WH and OW out of my head today especially when I see couples shopping together -- old and young.
After I felt the first tears, I decided it was time to head home -- but not before stopping for a visit to the tanning salon to do something for me and to relax.
I went out with SIL last night. She shared with me that my youngest D mentioned that Christmas just wouldn't be the same this year. This is the first time in 30 years that D!ck and I won't be together for Christmas... but for the kids... it will the first time IN THEIR ENTIRE LIVES that they will not be with their Dad for Christmas.
D!ck made no attempt to see the kids at Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, or birthdays. Why would Christmas be any different... especially since he'll likely be upset when we go to court on Monday. He's hell-bent on punishing us all for not going along with his new life.
But we will be fine... as a family... we will do everything like we normally do... and everyone will be there like they normally will be... everyone except D!ck. He's the one missing out.
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He'll get run over, alright.
Have you kept track of the debt that he has run up, anyway? Any nice round figures you have?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Nice round figures -- yes -- around $275K. And he's hiding credit card statements because they prove he was incurring debt on nonmarital purposes -- like Bimbo's business.
Reality is that for two years now, D!ck has tried supporting two families. And -- fortunately for me -- MY FAMILY is protected under the law. He has to support us. And he chose to support her and her kids.
So it was his choice to get in debt.
But his logic is that he makes the money and he decides how it gets spent. And he wants to now support her and not me.
That's why people need to get out of a relationship completely -- physically, emotionally, FINANCIALLY -- before they get in another relationship. D!ck didn't do this, obviously.
I hope the judge lets him have it because, so far, he has felt little consequenses. When someone in authority tells him (I pray) that he HAS to support me and the kids, then maybe he'll "get it."
And since he's the one who pursued the D, then this is a result of his actions. I'd love to say -- when it's all said and done -- that it would have been cheaper to just stay married and worked on our relationship instead of jumping ship.
Because by jumping ship, he's drowning.
And for Monday, I'll make sure I have a few incrimidating items with me... just in case the judge asks.
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HH,
Good luck tomorrow. It will be a very stressful day, but I know that you are well prepared for this. I sometimes wish aht I had fought a little more than I did. I think I convinced myself that "taking the high road" would increase chances for recovery but I was obviously wrong on that.
Fight hard tomorrow for you and your children. Keep us posted....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Hi HH-
I also want to echo Chai's encouragement. I have no doubt that you will continue to fight for your children. I will be praying for you.
I also wanted to say (slight t/j) to Chai that I don't think anyone could have fought even "a little more" than you did. You fought the good fight. Another chapter of life awaits....
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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Thanks, friends. Continued prayers is all I can ask for right now. I'll post as soon as I can tomorrow.
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Good luck today HH! We're all behind you here!
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When it gets stressful, just imagine all of us standing behind you cheering you on. You are loved and we're praying for you.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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Just checking in and making sure you know that we are thinking about ya.
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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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