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According to my wife it was an act of self preservation�.. Good grief. She told me recently that she had to go outside of our marriage to find her sanity and happiness.
Let�s get this strait, you had to have sex with a complete stranger, someone you have only had contact with thru facebook and cell phone conversations, to find your sanity? Where were all these sanity searching ladies when I was single?
�I only went thru with the sex after you accused me of cheating�. So if I had accused her of drug trafficking she would no doubt be on her way to Columbia as we speak.
Blows my mind.



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That is pretty funny, Timetofly. Why not accuse her of sticking her head up her butt.Get the video camera ready.

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I'll mention that to her, and get the camera ready.


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TTF,

Fog Babble...
Nothing more...

Ignore it.

You will never make sense out of adultery because it doesn't make any sense.


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Originally Posted by not2fun
When H and I first went to MC after Dday (the phony "act" he was putting on at the time), he got upset when I brought up his "affair".....he actually said, quite disgustingly, "She needs to stop calling it an 'affair'. She makes it seem like its some dirty, seedy, back alley motel thing...."

AWWWWW...poor thing.... MrRollieEyes

During the Affair, he REFUSED to call it an affair, instead he called it a "fantasy"..."It wasn't real"....."a connection".....

maybe they lose part of the dictionary in the fog????....

Affairs are parties.

The truth of it all boils down to two words, infidelity and adultry.

To call it anything else is to try to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.


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From http://www.dictionary.com:
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a⋅dul⋅ter⋅y [uh-duhl-tuh-ree]
�noun, plural -ter⋅ies.
voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.

in⋅fi⋅del⋅i⋅ty [in-fi-del-i-tee]
�noun, plural -ties.
1. marital disloyalty; adultery.
2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty.
3. lack of religious faith, esp. Christian faith.
4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression.

and finally:

af⋅fair [uh-fair]
�noun
1. anything done or to be done; anything requiring action or effort; business; concern: an affair of great importance.
2. affairs, matters of commercial or public interest or concern; the transactions of public or private business or finance: affairs of state; Before taking such a long trip you should put all your affairs in order.
3. an event or a performance; a particular action, operation, or proceeding: When did this affair happen?
4. thing; matter (applied to anything made or existing, usually with a descriptive or qualifying term): Our new computer is an amazing affair.
5. a private or personal concern; a special function, business, or duty: That's none of your affair.
6. an intense amorous relationship, usually of short duration.
7. an event or happening that occasions or arouses notoriety, dispute, and often public scandal; incident: the Congressional bribery affair.
8. a party, social gathering, or other organized festive occasion: The awards ceremony is the biggest affair on the school calendar.
Even #6 above doesn't give it the weight of the first two.

Interesting that this forum's title is a sub-head to Infidelity.


Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
St. Francis of Assissi
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