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The affairing down thread motivated me to post this. It is something I've been thinking about a lot recently.
OW never had my H.
She saw him from afar�
Successful business man,
Loving, involved father,
Committed, caring husband�
And she wanted him.
She thought she could just take what belonged to me�love and commitment�and have it for herself.
But the moment she entered his life, that man disappeared.
She had a man who didn�t remotely resemble the man she had attempted to steal.
All the qualities that attracted her to him were gone because of her existence in his life.
And when OW was stripped away from his life, my husband returned.
She still has no idea what it feels like to be loved by my husband.
She�s never looked into his eyes and seen his soul.
She will never have a hint of the bond we have shared for 25 years.
She had nothing, and she has even less today.
I have my husband, the man I�ve loved for 25 years. My children have their father, the man they�ve know and loved for all their lives.
She won a few battles along the darkened road,
but WE won the war�
me, my husband, and our children.
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The affairing down thread motivated me to post this. It is something I've been thinking about a lot recently.
OW never had my H.
She saw him from afar�
Successful business man,
Loving, involved father,
Committed, caring husband�
And she wanted him.
She thought she could just take what belonged to me�love and commitment�and have it for herself.
But the moment she entered his life, that man disappeared.
She had a man who didn�t remotely resemble the man she had attempted to steal.
All the qualities that attracted her to him were gone because of her existence in his life.
And when OW was stripped away from his life, my husband returned.
She still has no idea what it feels like to be loved by my husband.
She�s never looked into his eyes and seen his soul.
She will never have a hint of the bond we have shared for 25 years.
She had nothing, and she has even less today.
I have my husband, the man I�ve loved for 25 years. My children have their father, the man they�ve know and loved for all their lives.
She won a few battles along the darkened road,
but WE won the war�
me, my husband, and our children. Wow. This is good, sexymamabear. Thank you for posting it - what a great realization this is! 
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Me - 30 (FWW)
H - 30 (BH)
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This is lovely, i wish we all could feel the same way!!!
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>OW never had my husband
DARN FREAKIN' SKIPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Last edited by Dealan-de; 12/31/09 01:05 PM.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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>OW never had my husband
DARN FREAKIN' SKIPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU KNOW WAT I'M TALKIN' BOUT SISTA!!
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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Dang, she's good! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It will be, D.
Wishing you the same, my friend!
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I think very timely and inspirational to some here who are going through a very sad time during this holiday season. Here's a poem for the them (there's always light at the end of a dark tunnel). The Walk of Life As I was walking, Down the road of life; I was met by frustration- Sorrow and strife. I ran into loneliness, And saw it�s need; To be loved and wanted, Such a sad plead. I talked with heartache, About love gone bad; To see it�s pain, Left me sad. And there was evil, So cold and mean; It�s violent intent, Was clear to be seen. But finally came kindness, So warm and dear; Never asking for anything, Unconditionally clear. And last there was love, So warm and true; A gift from God- To me and you! by Brian Gearheart www.poemsonly.com
D-Day #1 Aug/2007.
D-Day #2 1/27/12
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SMB Thank you soooooooo much. This is a HUGE help to me. It is exactly what Pep and the others told me on my thread when I was feeling Blue about OW maybe making WH happy. They told me that she has a sheel of him not the whole person and I know that because WH isn't the man I married and love right now. He is a stranger. It is good to know that WHs can be replaced when they see the light.
THANK YOU
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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{{{{Scotland}}}}
I am not familiar with your story, but by your sig line I see you are in Plan B. The very best thing for your marriage is that you stay completely dark in your Plan B.
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I am staying DARK as night. I had a bit of a slip yesterday(no direct contact but my DS9 sent an email to WH telling him Thanx but Mommy said she would take care of it herself). Got a gentle NUDGE from some supporters on here to keep me on track though. I do have a long thread(up to 72 pages, I can be long winded) and I know it is hard to keep track of all of us NEWBIES. I have heard a lot about you though. You are quite a celebrity on these boards for your STRENGTH.
I read through other people's threads and have even come across some older stories that are quite encouraging to me.
Thanx
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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SMB Thank you soooooooo much. This is a HUGE help to me. It is exactly what Pep and the others told me on my thread when I was feeling Blue about OW maybe making WH happy. They told me that she has a sheel of him not the whole person and I know that because WH isn't the man I married and love right now. He is a stranger. It is good to know that WHs can be replaced when they see the light.
THANK YOU
If you ever need a FORMER WH POV, ask TST. He's awesome!
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Beautiful! THat's exactly how I feel! Do you mind if I borrow it? Happy New Year!
ME: 45 FBS
FWH: GloveOil 43
D-Day 1/7/09 (A: 10/08-1/09)
DD: 16
DS: 12
Married: 19 years
In love for 24+ years and counting!
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I so love smb and tst! Great post my friend
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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