MJP, facebook exposures have been very POWERFUL on this forum. We have had several affairs killed dead by doing this because it is a collection of key people in the WS's life and their contact info is right at your fingertips! What we did was make up a form letter and sent it out to everyone on the OP's facebook account. I advise a sentence asking the recipients to please notify the OP's parents and have them call you personally. Be sure and put your name, email address and phone # on the message. One guy recieved an email from another woman the OP was dating! Another man emailed and said the OP was doing his wife too! You will get lots of hostility [screw them] but you will get some good, positive emails too!

The letter should go something like this:

Dear friend of Joe Scum,

I am the husband of Sally, the married woman who is having an affair with Joe. We have been married for 6 years and have a little 6 year old girl named Molly. We live in Timbukto, Ohio. My daughter and I are heartbroken over this affair. I am writing you to ask you to use your influence to persuade joe to end his affair with my wife. Any support you can offer would be appreciated.

I would also be grateful if one of oyu would ask Joe's parents to call me at XXX-@@@-XXXX so I can discuss the situation with them.

Thank you,

MJP

MJP, one watchout is people who say "oh ok, I won't tell anybody!" nononononono!! Tell them secrecy will fuel the affair, not kill it! Ask for their support in any way they see fit. If they are close or influential it is hoped they will call her.

Definitely EXPOSE. Also, my youngest DS is also 6. I told both DS9 and DS6 and guess what, they get it. DS6 actually refused to talk to WH on the phone for 9 days stating(while DS9 was on the phone with WH and WH could hear) "I am MAD at Daddy for leaving us and I will not talk to him on the phone until he comes back." I didn't tell him to do that, it was his choice and I believe that WH got a loittle taste of consequences from it.

You need to get to a lawyer ASAP in regards to your DD. In some places(like Ontario where I live), a man has rights to a child that isn't even his biologically. My brother lived with a girl who had a baby and was told that if they split up she could take him to court for child support. Just learn the facts from a professional and don't listen to the fog babble anymore.

Also, make sure you DO NOT tell your WW about this place. It is going to be your best tool towards saving your M.

Don't lose HOPE in your M. As I was told, "your marriage isn't over until the ink on your divorce papers are signed." and you are nowhere near that yet.

Listen to the vets on here they know what they are talking about.

Well, duh! Take away her money! Tell her she is welcome to get a job to pay for her own gas.

Have you talked to OM yet? Have you talked to HIS parents? Why not?


So what? This man is scr*wing a married woman. What do YOU care what he thinks about you? He is slime.

You need to tell your daughter that there can only be a man and a woman in a marriage, and that mommy has decided to bring in a second man to the marriage. Your wife needs to know that her DAUGHTER doesn't want her ruining her (daughter's) life.

Update:

Who have you exposed?

Have you cut off all money?

Have you told DD that WW returned her expensive gift to get money to go see the OM?

And, don't move out.

WW came home this morning as if everything was fine. She asked if she could have money to pay the phone bill because it was due today. I told her I would go pay it and she got mad and left again. I'm becoming wise to her tricks and she's not getting anymore money out of me.

I emailed OM several weeks ago but got no response from him although he did tell my wife about it. After hearing a phone conversation between them where my wife told him he was the first guy she ever cheated on me with I sent him another email detailing all of her affairs and copied and pasted some steamy emails between WW and her previous EA that I got when I accessed her email. These were dated just a few weeks before she started talking to him. I know I've caused major problems in their relationship and it will probably go down in flames without much help from me. Although I am going to do all I can to see that it does.

This man is insanely jealous of me and everyone else my WW talks to on FB. His biggest fear is that my wife might see what she's doing is wrong and come back to her husband and daughter. I can't imagine what my wife sees in this jerk. I think maybe she just wants out of the M and is using him as her exit strategy. She will need someone to support her when she does move out. What kind of spousal support is she entitled to? She is still demanding a divorce.

I have exposed her affair to her two closest friends who she talks to everyday. Most of my family knows what's going on and I plan on talking to her mother about it. OM has blocked me from his facebook page so I can't see his friend list but I do know several of them. Again I'm still on the fence about how much of this to tell my 6yo. She was happy with the $12 dollar barbie mommy got her after exchanging her $50 dollar toy laptop. I just want her to be happy right now. I know soon she will have to know what's going on and I'm just delaying the heartbreak. That's the hardest part of all this. It's to bad children have to be involved in all this adult BS.

Don't let that stop you. Sign up for a new Facebook account and look up the guy. Unless he's blocked the entire world who are not his friends from seeing his friends list, you'll be able to look at each and every one of them.

Then you can copy-and-paste the URL to a scratch pad (Word, Notepad, vi, whatever), then look those URLs of OMs friends up and expose via Facebook.

Facebook exposures have awesome power to stop affairs cold!

Just because she demands it doesn't mean you have to act on it. If she wants it that badly - she'll file (you don't). Many WS threat D but don't act on it.

Gg

Discovered my WW has changed her relationship status on facebook from married to single. Ouch.

Good time to consider exposing on FB.

Gg

Yea, that really hurts. My W changed her FB status to "It's complicated" for the couple of days that she was gone. It must have made her feel better about what she was doing to not acknowledge that she was married.

I quite agree. Use your own Facebook account and start going nuclear. Tell everyone WW is YOUR WIFE and that she is having an illicit affair with OM. Send messages to all of her friends. To all of his friends. To all of his relatives. To all of her relatives. Do it now.

Really. Do it now. The longer you wait to drive a stake into the heart of this monster called "Affair," the longer WW and OM have to concoct their own Bullschwozz story about your mental state, abusive actions, and how unsafe they feel around you. If you let them get the upper hand, start planning for life as a divorced man.