I am the bad guy I had an affair 8 years ago and it lasted almost a year from what I can remember, my wife found out when I broke it of with the other women. I was out of the house around 2 weeks and she let me back in, god bless her. I know I FU, plan and simple I begged for forgiveness and the saint she is and gave it to me.

For the last few years we have not been very intimate, once in a great while. She said it was menopause, so I didnt push it I thought I was being understanding to her needs so I never pushed the issue. Recently she has changed and I asked her just the other day what was wrong and she finally said she just doesnt want me to touch her anymore and that was the problem all along not the meno. She states it is all from the affair. And would like to seperate and test the field, and if she thinks she still loves me after playing the field she will come back. So I asked her to go to counsling and she stated they cant do anything to get that out of my head, what kind of counselor should we see and is there someone who can help her forget this or is a mute point, and I should let her move on. We have two children who will be devestated if we split, and yes I should have thought about that years ago, I know im an AHole. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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