I'm newly betrayed and am still swimming in the deep emotional currents that come with that, but I have a moral dilemma that needs advising.

I've been snooping like mad trying to make sure the W has truly ended her A. During the course of my snooping I have gleaned information about another WW this man has been trying to seduce. I've known about her for some time, the jerk used to use her against my wife whenever she would waiver in the EA. Do to some carelessness on his part I now have her full married name, address, and phone number.

Should I warn this other WW H before it is too late, if it is not already? I don't know them personally, so I'm not sure how to approach him if I were to do that. Also, is the risk of damage to my current recovery worth helping out someone else?

This guy is a serial cheater and is always working a married woman or any female at work that looks vulnerable. He currently lives with his parents and is looking for a new family to drop into. In one of the emails to my wife he actually told her he was upset she left me, he thought I would leave my own house once she told me she was in love with him and he was then going to move into my house. He seems to have lost interest in her since I took her back in, but I'm still snooping!

If you were this other WW's H, wouldn't you want to know?......

I can understand why you are waivering, but do the right thing and contact this poor man.

Yep, try to save another marriage from a predator, and link the H to MB website.

Hanging,

Tell the other WW's H. IN fact send him a copy of the email you just mentioned. Her H and she needs to see what kind of man she is dealing with. Your own recovery will not be affected by OM taking one on the chin unless your W is still in contact with him. IF she is, then you are not in recovery.

It really is very simple...do the right thing. Don't you wish someone did that for you.

God Bless,

JL

Okay, I'm glad to hear what I already believed in my heart to be true. Does anyone here have any experience or advice on how to approach someone you've never met and deliver this kind of news?

Can you do it via Facebook?

I'm not sure, I'm probably the last person on the planet who does not have a facebook account. My WW had one, so I know some basics, but can I send a message to someone who is not my friend?

Hanging,

If you know her name and address, just call him. Tell her who you are, who you are married to, what your W has done and what you have found out. If he wants to meet with you then fine. If he doesn't want to hear anymore, then fine. If he hangs up, then fine.

You have done what you can do, but you also did what you HAD to do.

JL

Absolutely, you should call this other husnband! This scumbag is trying to find a husband to replace! If you can find him on facebook, I would also send out an email to all his facebook friends telling what he does. Additionally, I would pick up the phone and inform his parents.

H, I would notify this husband by phone call to make sure it reaches him. It could easily be intercepted by his WW.

Then sign up on facebook and you can then send an email to all his facebook friends exposing his game.

Just putting in my two cents. . . . if I were the other guy, I would DEFINITELY want to know. As a matter of fact, after going through this whole ordeal myself in the last week (of my W coming clean to an affair), I would certainly have wanted someone to tell me if they knew. If I hadn't caught her, who knows how long they would've carried it out. So, do this man a huge favor. Do what you can to get ahold of him over the phone. Forget Facebook. Get his e-mail address and say you'll send him proof.

Good luck, my friend!

There would be a lot less affairs in the world if people would start exposing them! Affairs thrive on secrecy.

I certainly wish that OWH had informed his wife's previous affair partner's BW. OW and her previous AP begged OWH not to tell and he didn't. Next victim (albeit, a very willing one) was my H. If OW's prevous A had been exposed, I really doubt my H would have been so head-over-heels about her to start. I think he would have kept his distance and not travelled the slippery slope into the A. OWH expressed thanks that I exposed the A to him and regret that he had not done it the two previous times his WW engaged in As. It does take a certain amount of confidence to call a stranger and give them this information. Be confident. It feels right because it is the right thing to do.

AM

Expose the truth.