ok so last night my DD2 pulls her pant leg up after resting on the couch for a bit to show me a boo boo. She has a scab (which has been there) on her knee and a new bruise below it as well as one on her shin. I asked her how she got the bruise, figuring she fell again, and she said the little boy of my WXH OW's hit her. Well i was on the phone with one of my IM's who promptly contacted XH about this and had a converstation with him about it. He stated that the little boy hit her but was told it was in the shoulder after my 2 y/o hit him. now this kid is now 6 1/2yrs old. Apparently he has done it before but not with a mean intent but in playing. I am not happy about this but apparently he is telling my IMs that he has handled it and that they are hardly in a room unsupervised. I am concerned but i also know they are both young kids and such but i don't want anything bad to happen to her. I contacted my lawyer just waiting for a response. My daughter loves her father and i don't want to keep her from him and i don't know that i can.

((((((Stronger)))))),

I am sad to hear of this. I understand your concern. It could be an isolated incidence but be aware. Make sure you are documenting all of this. Then you can recognize a pattern if one surfaces.

I'm not surprised if the 6yr old is acting out in the living arrangements he is exposed to.....the children are hurt the worst in all of this mess....

Not2fun

STB4,
I personally have a problem with a 6 1/2 year old hitting a 2 year old regardless of the reason. The 6 yo is old enough to know not to hit a baby, to tell an adult instead. But that's just MHO....coming from a mother of 3
Jojo

Thanks NOT i am doing that and i am hoping it is just that. I don't know if i should contact him about it or not. I have not talked to him or seen him in almost a year now.

JoJo that is my sentement as well. My one IM has 4 kids and she tried to impress that upon him in a not taking sides kind of way. A 6 y/o definately knows it's not right to hit a toddler IMO.

Stronger,

Your job is to protect your children. You are doing the only thing you can do and your motive is to not hurt your WXH but take care of your children.

When you keep that motive in the forefront you will be doing what's right.

Queenie thank and that is what i keep telling myself. My IM had told him that b4 i had even said that. She is a really good friend of mine, like a sister, and WXH middle brother's wife.

Apparently he understood and wouldn't want that to happen but if it becomes habbit forming he wouldn't want her in that enviroment either. WOW he was actually thinking of his child for once.... SHOCKED. I just got this info about an hour ago because he picked up DD2 from out other IM this am and checked her out for himself so he wanted to update her/me on the situation. Apparently he is going to have another talk with the little boy again when he gets home from school... so who knows.

No problem Stronger.....I got your back!!!....we go WAY back, remember???...

Speaking of way back, you talk to Lala lately??

Not2fun

no i have not... i hope all is well with her and her family.... there are many people i have lost contact with over the last year that i wish i hadn't. I those people often and hope their lives are doing well.... including LaLa, hubby and kids!