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Well, I have been in plan B for a little over three months now and finally had MY first not sad day today.
I am hoping it is the start of a trend and look forward to not having the sad moments so constantly. They really do suck BUT remind us that we are human and loving and alive...so look at the bright side while you are in them.
Anger, sadness, grief, fear are all natural human responses to what betrayed spouses go through. They show we care.
That is a good thing.
Planning a b-day party will be a good activity for you to keep you forced to look outward from yourself and to live authentically for your child.
My new nickname for plan B is plan boundaries for the beautiful betrayed. (It works for me.)
*I* want an evil plan, too! Wolf, not Cougar -Chel
Wolf, not Cougar Why wolf? Wolves mate for life. BW-40 WH-38 M 18 years, together 21 Bomb drop 10/13/2008. EA +some physical, plus disclosure of long term porn addiction and "gaslighting" campaign to isolate me from our social circle 2 False recoveries 10/22/2008 and 2/10/2009. Separated since 10/5/2009 when he refused to get treatment for his binge drinking. Divorce final October 2010.
When my son turned 7 (he's 23 now) we had a fort-building-squirt-gun-water-ballon party. It was fantastic. It was chaos. It was messy. It was boy-heaven. But, we don't live in cold Canada or insanely cold MONTANA.
Neak, did you watch the Rose Parade and get all warm and toasty looking at our blue skies?
However I do keep an eye on the left coast weather forecasts, and am awestruck by the temperatures. When I see 57, my brain has a hard time understanding that number in anything but below zero.
Any more, I get ALL excited when we get clear up to 20. It's gotten so bad I don't even look at the thermometer when I go outside. I used to check every single time. "Oooooooh, -20 this time! Oooooooooh, all the way up to -31 this time!!!!!!!!!"
The only reason I still keep an eye on the wind chill is so I can give even sterner warnings to the Dervish when it gets really bad. DO YOU WANT YOUR EAR TO FALL OFF YOUNG MAN???????
Eventually, even the wildest, craziest thing can become commonplace and even acceptable - a fine metaphor for why Plan B is so important.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
Geez was that a HINT Neak? Maybe you should put a S in front of your name cuz You are a SNEAK hehehehe.
Pep- I am waiting for Marshmallow to come and say something about your launcher video hehehehe.
DS9 decided we were having a stay at home for mental health day and I agreed. We won't have too many of these for sure but I understood what he was feeling like. He has a bad head cold and has been having a rough time sleeping. That makes my DS's not so Dear and they become really CRANKY. Cuddle up on the couch under blankets and watch the Disney channel, do crafts and drink hot chocolate. Bed EARLY tonight though so we are refreshed for the morning. WOHOOOOHOOOO.
