I cannot lie and say it was a great year (death of a dear sister and learning to deal with betrayal), but the bright lights are that we are learning to manage memories and FWH is once again the totally devoted husband of long ago. We owe all of you guys and the Harleys so much for helping us get to this point.

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Our M still has reas that need work (maybe 'cause we're human!), but at a time when I felt desperate, useless, focused on things that were of no help whatsoever, my H just blessed my heart. The very man who I personally betrayed rescued me from that emotional pit I was falling into. No, it isn't his job to fix that, but it made me grateful, happy, amazed, and proud that he stood up and basically said, "I love my wife!!!" I still get goosebumps and tears when I think about it.

2009 is the year I selfishly dropped a hand grenade in to my family and blew everything up. But it was also the year I learned how far I had allowed myself to drift from my values, how porn was not my hobby but an addiction, and remembered what is truly precious.

2010 will determine if I came to learn these things too late.

DT

I loooove this thread, so many good things. And congrats to Bitbucket for new baby....

My good things in 2009 are that DS is getting throught this whole A thing okay, WH sees him a lot and I am thankful for that. I, as of now have, a roof over my head and mine and familys health. I also think from the beginning of 2009 until now I have gotten sooo much stronger, a lot of that due to the wonderful people on here.

I hope 2010 is a good year for all of us on here BS' and FWS'. Love you guys and thanks for all your prayers and help.

I won my case against the IRS, was granted Innocent Spouse Relief and got untangled from ExH mess!

I lost 35 pounds due to adopting better eating habits

My cancer diagnosis has brought me so much closer to my mother and my older sister.

My younger sister's affair has given me so much clarity into the vile world of adultery and better insight into my exH behavior.

In 2/09, I asked exH to stay out of my house, this gave me so much peace, there have been minimal breaches, but I am so much better able to deal with him after months of no contact.

My cancer diagnosis gave me a much needed insight into what kind of relationships I need to nuture and which ones I need to let go of.

My children are safe and healthy.

I don't post very often but here goes.

2009 started off the sames as it did years prior with me alone and missing exWH. A light bulb went off this summer and I decided to try the dating pool. I met a fantastic man and we have been dating ever since. It seems we are both falling in love with each other. My kids like him and he likes my kids. So the end of 2009 and beginning of 2010 I got to spend with him. It was nice to have someone to kiss at midnight :-)). Looking forward to more happy times with my guy.

Also I bought a new car and got a new puppy in 2009.

Still

2009 will go down as the worst year of my life:

Low-lights:
- Dec 26, 2008 = DDay#2/OM#3 (okay, not 2009, but close enough)
- Jan 10, 2009 = OM texts WW, sends her withdrawal back to ground zero and starting all over again
- May 6, 2009 = DDay#3/OM#4
- May 8, 2009 = I've had enough, Plan D papers handed to wife
- May 9, 2009 = WW explains to kiddos why Mommy & Daddy getting divorce. I still give her credit...she owned all of it, telling kids it wasn't their fault, or Daddy's fault...but her fault.
- May 9 and onward = so this is what hell feels like

High-lights:
- Jan 2009 = found MB.com
- All of 2009 = Learned a TON about myself, who I am, what I'm about, my character, my drive, my strength! Who my true friends are...
- September, 2009 = job teaching part time
- October, 2009 = full time job at University
- I have my health! I have a good job! My DDs are with me! I'm alive...and well!

Looking forward to a great 2010. LG

still!!!! Sounds awesome!

Lawful, it sounds like it's been pretty bad, but I'm impressed about your blessings. Great that you're healthy, and have the DDs, even if the WW was swallowed by the alien.
Hope 2010 is as good as 2009 was bad!

Thanks Tabby and imanotherone. Moving forward one day at a time...

And as my uncle says: "Today's a good day...I'm on this side of grass!"

Son is doing well in high school - when maintaining disciplined study program....and not lying to me about having finished/turned in work

Daughter graduated from high school and went to college - 75 miles from home. Had 3.4 GPA for her first semester

Dog & cats well

Paid off loans from my credit union...working on my other debts.

Sister who hasn't spoken to me much in about 5 years is being a bit warmer. We talk about our mom but that is almost all. I'm trying to slowly introduce more personal elements of conversation. Don't know if or when we will ever reestablish our relationship but that is up to her.

I continue to get along well enough w/ my xh and his wife.

I got brave and asked a doctor to performa a fairly minor oral surgery procedure I had talked about for years - related to very major surgery 20 years ago. It was just 8 days ago but the area involved already feels better even though it's still swollen. (Ask and you shall receive.)

My mom's health is good though her memory isn't. However, she is now living in a place devoted to people with memory issues. So, she is safe and taking her medications as prescribed.

Life is good!

2009 The newly divorced MLC goes into full gear! Sports cars, new house, young GF. My friends think I've lost my mind.(And I had!) By mid-year I'm really feeling guilty for the Rockstar act while my fwxw takes almost complete responsibility for our kids. GF and I end it after a six month relationship unlike anything I had ever felt in my life.(The passion WAS OFF THE CHARTS)but it just didn't feel right.(too fantasyish) I start talking to fwxw about reconciling. We begin spending more and more time together. The holidays were great. All the in-laws(outlaws) were back together. Fwxw and I are closer than we'd been in years. The Cowboys make the playoffs! WHAT A LIFE!!

DUDE