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In our second week of recovery since NC letter was written. Thought things were going "well." Also thought I got full disclosure (passwords etc), came to find out there is a g-mail account that I was not aware of and web history is being erase. I still believe there has been no contact between the WH and OW, but no knows. I am trying to get up the nerve to confront him again, but feeling so hurt and out of sorts. I don't what my distrusting him to make him going running back to her. Please help.
BW 41
WH 39
Married 15 years/know each other 20 years
DD 10 & DD 13
Discovery Date: Aug 29, 2009
EA 12/08-6/09
PA 6/09-10/09
EA-10/09-12/09
No Contact e-mail sent: 1/2/10
Recovery has been a rough road ever since
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Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 7,464
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Why would you believe that when he is obviously covering his tracks?
Denial is not just an Egyptian river.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,146
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h20lily,
Please uderstand, distrust would NOT be the reason he would go back to OW.
Continue to ask a lot of questions and you will get the support you need.
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
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In our second week of recovery since NC letter was written. Thought things were going "well." Also thought I got full disclosure (passwords etc), came to find out there is a g-mail account that I was not aware of and web history is being erase. I still believe there has been no contact between the WH and OW, but no knows. I am trying to get up the nerve to confront him again, but feeling so hurt and out of sorts. I don't what my distrusting him to make him going running back to her. Please help. Don't confront without evidence! You will get nowhere. Download a keylogger on his computer and find out what he is doing. If you have daily access to the computer, use spectorpro, if you want to access it once and have the reports emailed to you, use eblaster. I don't what my distrusting him to make him going running back to her. That does not make any sense. It is not lack of TRUST that will cause him to run to her, but a lack of boundaries. You should not trust him and you should not PRETEND like you do.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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h20lily:::: I did keylogger and got frustrated, save yourself some grief and get Eblaster--it REALLY is the best thing I ever did. Listen to Melody, h20lily. She knows her stuff.
Remain calm, always.
BW:34
WH:37
M 4 years, together 8 years
D-day of third EA with a coworker 1/6/10
PlanA 1/7-16/10
PlanB 1/17/10
~starting 16 months of grad school 1/9/10-will require class attendance 9-5 on 2 Saturdays and 2 Sundays every month
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