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I read the "Spying 101" thread. However, most of the advice doesn't apply to my situation, as my wife moved out 3 months ago. I'm thinking about hiring a PI. Here's why:
-- The service would be professional.
-- It wouldn't get me in legal trouble.
-- It'd afford excellent proof.
The only downside is cost. Any thoughts?
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Me, BH: 39
WW: 32
2 young kids
EA detected fall '08; wife vacated fall '09
First marriage for us both; been together a decade; and want to save my marriage
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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$1500 and as a bonus he caught OW cheating on my XH. Gave him info and he is still living with her.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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However, most of the advice doesn't apply to my situation, as my wife moved out 3 months ago. My WH had moved out prior to my finding MB....the tools on the "Spying 101" still helped me.....and I was being gaslighted as well.... I'm thinking about hiring a PI. Here's why:
-- The service would be professional.
-- It wouldn't get me in legal trouble.
-- It'd afford excellent proof.
The only downside is cost. Any thoughts? DO IT!!! not2fun ps....Stick to one thread. It makes it easier for the VETS on here to keep up with your situtation. It doesn't matter if you have a million questions on different topics. If you have an emergency and need help right away, you can always change your thread title.....
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If you find it hard to do it yourself and you got the money do it.
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Not2fun,
Got it; I'll stick to one thread.
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Instant, undeniable results for me , using the PI. It got my sanity back(okay, that is not saying much).
I was fortunate. I use these guys in my law practice and they are my buds. It was gratis.
But, if i had to spenr the $$, I would do it in a heartbeat. It was a lifesaver.
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