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Here is a great article complete with stats on divorce: Article to give you hope! It's incredibly interesting to me that couples who rate their marriages as "very unhappy", if they stick it out, 5 years later 77% rate their marriages as "very happy". In other words...suck it up, princess. Put the time in, do what you promised on your wedding day, and you have a very good chance of having a happy marriage...but as in all things, it takes time and patience. This applies to all marriages, not only those that have been affected by adultery, but it should give hope to both BSs and FWSs, that (especially in hard times), "this too shall pass".
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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All of the articles in this series are good and very interesting...if you click on the <back> and <forward> links at the bottom of the article, you can read others with super interesting facts about D...like, divorcees are almost never happier AFTER their divorces.
Hmmmm....
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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Focus On The Family always has great articles.
Thank you for the link.
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Focus On The Family always has great articles.
Thank you for the link.
and... I agree that Focus on the Family always has great articles...books too! You're welcome for the link and to you too, Pep...hope the new year is treating you well!
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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All of the articles in this series are good and very interesting...if you click on the <back> and <forward> links at the bottom of the article, you can read others with super interesting facts about D...like, divorcees are almost never happier AFTER their divorces.
Hmmmm.... Happiness comes from within. I've been happy my entire life no matter what was going on. My mom/dad's divorce, my divorces, after my father died. I think it speaks to your coping skills if you are divorcing to find "happiness"..DUDE
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I think it speaks to your coping skills if you are divorcing to find "happiness".. I do too...I think it also can speak to your maturity level, if you are short-sighted and can only see what you HOPE divorce will solve for you...to h*ll with your children and what it will do to their lives. It also says alot about the stock one puts in the promises they made on their wedding day, IMNSHO.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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Yep,,,,,love it.... Hey MF.....I had a "MF incident" with my Dd16 yesterday....  She is furious with me and Dad and says she will NEVER look at us the same again..... (the whole thing reminded me of you.....and I have to say I am mortified but nearly as bad a my H was.....  ) not2fun
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Yep,,,,,love it.... Hey MF.....I had a "MF incident" with my Dd16 yesterday.... She is furious with me and Dad and says she will NEVER look at us the same again..... (the whole thing reminded me of you.....and I have to say I am mortified but nearly as bad a my H was..... ) not2fun Teeheehee...don't you know how to lock your door?!?!?
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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[quote=Dude007
Happiness comes from within. I've been happy my entire life no matter what was going on. My mom/dad's divorce, my divorces, after my father died. I think it speaks to your coping skills if you are divorcing to find "happiness"..DUDE [/quote]
Sometimes I do not agree (ok many times) with your opinion but I absolutely agree with that statement.
The illusion is that happiness in on the other side of the mountain, down the river, the next town blah blah blah. If you are not happy within yourself nothing will make you happy. Not a D, not a remarriage. The problem is these waywards think they are walking away from their unhappiness. Guess what they just brought it to their new address.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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[quote=Dude007
Happiness comes from within. I've been happy my entire life no matter what was going on. My mom/dad's divorce, my divorces, after my father died. I think it speaks to your coping skills if you are divorcing to find "happiness"..DUDE Sometimes I do not agree (ok many times) with your opinion but I absolutely agree with that statement. The illusion is that happiness in on the other side of the mountain, down the river, the next town blah blah blah. If you are not happy within yourself nothing will make you happy. Not a D, not a remarriage. The problem is these waywards think they are walking away from their unhappiness. Guess what they just brought it to their new address. [/quote] Of course, they are even MORE UNHAPPY once their fantasy world collides w/ reality(divorce/exposure) DUDE
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