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Not a song, but a poem for today

Children Learn What They Live (1998)

by Dorothy Law Nolte (1924 - 2005)

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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Darby's Castle
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See the ruin on the hill, where the smoke is hanging still,
Like an echo of an age long forgotten.
There's a story of a home crushed beneath those blackened stones,
And the roof that fell before the beams were rotten.

Cecil Darby loved his wife, and he laboured all his life,
To provide her with material possessions.
And he built for her a home of the finest wood and stone.
And the building soon became his sole obsession.

Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised,
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
And the gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky,
But it only took one night to bring it down,
When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.

Though they shared a common bed, there was precious little said,
In the moments that were set aside for sleepin'.
For his busy dreams were filled with the rooms he'd yet to build,
And he never heard young Helen Darby weeping.

Then one night he heard a sound, as he laid his pencil down,
And he traced it to her door and turned the handle.
And the pale light of the moon through the window of the room,
Split the shadows where two bodies lay entangled.

Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised,
And the silhouette was seen for miles around.
And the gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky,
But it only took one night to bring it down,
When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.

Nobody ever looked back on their life from their death bed and said, "I wish I'd spent a lot more time at work..."

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"Calling All Angels" by Train



I need a sign to let me know you're here
All of these lines are being crossed over the atmosphere
I need to know that things are gonna look up
'Cause I feel us drowning in a sea spilled from a cup

When there is no place safe and no safe place to put my head
When you feel the world shake from the words that are said

[Chorus:]
And I'm calling all angels
I'm calling all you angels

I won't give up if you don't give up [Repeat x4]

I need a sign to let me know you're here
'Cause my TV set just keeps it all from being clear
I want a reason for the way things have to be
I need a hand to help build up some kind of hope inside of me

[Chorus]

When children have to play inside so they don't disappear
While private eyes solve marriage lies cause we don't talk for years
And football teams are kissing Queens
and losing sight of having dreams
In a world that what we want is only what we want until it's ours

[Chorus x2]

Calling all you angels [Repeat till fade]


(Lyrics as see on http://www.azlyrics.com.)


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Skald was singing this to me the other day and it made me cry.



Quote:
Yea yea
Dancin' in the dark middle of the night
Takin' your heart and holdin' it tight
Emotional touch touchin' my skin
And asking you to do what you've been doin' all over again

Oh it's a beautiful thing don't think I can keep it all in
I just gotta let you know what it is that won't let me go

It's your love
It just does something to me
It sends a shock right through me
I can't get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I'm under
Oh it's your love

Better than I was, more than I am
And all of this happened by taking your hand
And who I am now is who I wanted to be
And now that we're together,
I'm stronger than ever
I'm happy and free

Oh it's a beautiful thing,
Don't think I can keep it all in
If you asked me why I've changed,
All I gotta do is say your sweet name

It's your love
It just does something to me
It sends a shock right through me
I can't get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I'm under
Oh, it's your love

Baby, Oh oh, oh,

Oh it's a beautiful thing,
Don't think I can keep it all in
I just gotta let you konw what it is that won't let me go

It's your love
It just does something to me
It sends a shock right through me
I can't get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I'm under,
Oh it's your love
It's your love, it's your love, it's your love

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May you and your loved ones enjoy the true spirit and joy of the season. Merry Christmas!

"Light of The Stable" by Selah



Hail, hail to the newborn King
Let our voices sing Him our praises
Hail, hail to the guiding Light
That brought us tonight to our Savior

Halle, hallelujah
Halle, hallelujah
Halle, hallelujah
Halle, hallelujah

Come now, let it shine so bright
To the knowing Light of the stable
Kneel close to the Child so dear
Cast aside your fear and be thankful

Hail, hail to the newborn King
Let our voices sing Him our praises
Hail, hail to the guiding Light
That brought us tonight to our Savior

chorus

Hail, hail to the newborn King
Let our voices sing Him our praises
Hail, hail to the guiding Light
That brought us tonight to our Savior

chorus

(Lyrics as seen on http://www.ap0s7le.com.)


"God bless us, every one." - Tiny Tim, A Christmas Carol


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I'm glad this thread was bumped...a few days ago I heard this song and it reminded me of what my DH and I did right after Plan B ended...we got small matching blue stars tattooed on our wrists (he has two, I have one to make the "three blue stars" from this song).

It was his idea (he had to talk to me into it) but knowing how much it meant to him and that it was from this song called "Built to Last", I agreed:

Built to Last by the Grateful Dead:

There are times when you can beckon,
There are times when you must call.
You can take a lot of reckoning,
But you can't take it all.

There are times when I can help you out,
And times when you must fall.
There are times when you must live in doubt
And I can't help at all.

Three blue stars rise on the hill
Say no more now just be still
All these trials soon be past
Look for something built to last

A wind held by the collar,
Yes, a cloud held by the breeze
You can walk on coals of fire
But sometimes you must freeze

There are times when you offend me
And I do the same to you
If we can't or won't forget it
I guess we could be through

One blue star sets on the hill
Call it back you never will
One more star sinks in the past
Show me something built to last

Built to last till time itself falls tumbling from the wall
Built to last till sunshine fails and darkness moves on all
Built to last while years roll past like cloudscapes in the sky
Show me something built to last and something built to try

There are times when you get hit upon
Try hard but you cannot give
Other times you'd gladly part
With what you need to live

Don't waste your breath to save your face
When you have done your best
And even more is asked of you
Fate will decide the rest

All the stars are gone but one
Morning breaks here comes the sun
Cross the sky now sinking fast
Show me something built to last


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D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR)
Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007

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For the repentant FWSs in hopes that you will not only find forgiveness from your BS but also from yourself and start a clean slate:

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Quote:
In this farewell, There is no blood
There is no alibi
Cause I've drawn regret
From the truth
Of a thousands lies
So let mercy come and wash away

What I've Done
I'll face myself
To cross out what I've become
Erase myself
and let go of what I've done

Put to rest, What you thought of me
Well, I clean this slate
With the hands, Of uncertainty
So let mercy come, And Wash away

What I've Done
I'll face myself
Tto cross what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done

For what I've done
I start again
And whatever pain may come
Today this ends
I'm forgiving what I've done

I'll face myself
To cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
(Na,Na,Na)

What I've Done
What I've Done
Forgetting what I've done

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[censored] Dale and Stevie Ray Vaughn playing "Pipeline".

Also, "Splendid Isolation"_Warren Zevon:

I wanna live all alone in the desert
I wanna be like Georgia O'Keefe
I wanna live on the upper Eastside
and never go down to the street etc

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I think there is a level of forgiveness here but I recognize I'm nowhere near it. Maybe some folks out there are in this place. I wonder what it feels like....

"In the Sun"
Michael Stipe (REM) and Chris Martin (Coldplay)

I picture you in the sun wondering what went wrong
And falling down on your knees asking for sympathy
And being caught in between all you wish for and all you seen
And trying to find anything you can feel that you can believe in

May God's love be with you
Always
May God's love be with you

I know i would apologize if i could see in your eyes
'Cause when you showed me myself,you know, i became someone else
But i was caught in between all you wish for and all you need
I picture you fast asleep
A nightmare comes
You can't keep awake

May God's love be with you
Always
May God's love be with you

'Cause if i find
If i find my own way
How much will i find
If i find
If i find my own way
How much will i find
You

I don't know anymore
What it's for
I'm not even sure
If there is anyone who is in the sun
Will you help me to understand
'Cause i been caught in between all you wish for and all you need
Maybe you're not even sure what it's for
Any more than me

May God's love be with you
Always
May God's love be with you
Always



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Here's a song I wrote when WW and I were in the middle of the storm. This was my healing song and the process of writing it helped me get through a dark dark time. If someone get's something out of it I'd consider myself honored. Feel free to download it or stream it

https://rcpt.yousendit.com/799694874/a2ff8a6643f945e50721cffc3b36d29c


Right before your eyes

Right Before Your Eyes
Ive been around the world
Searchin for a miracle
Been looking for something
to ease my troubled mind
I took the wrong road
I took the easy way out
I was runnin scared
All my life

Its funny how the simple things
Can slowly pass you by
Bridges burn and castles crumble
Before you realize

That everything that you need
Is right before your eyes
Youd trip on it if youd get any closer
Before youd realize
That the answer
Is right before your eyes

And in my darkest hour
I feel the power of the truth
Come crashin like a storm
Down on me
Theres no more defenses
Theres no more denial
Cause only truth
Can set will set you free

Its funny how the simple things
Can slowly pass you by
Bridges burn and castles crumble
Before you realize

That everything that you need
Is right before your eyes
Youd trip on it if youd get any closer
Before youd realize
That the truth
Is right before your eyes

Ive been runnin so long looking for a clue
But every step I take just leads back to you

Everything that you need
Is right before your eyes
Youd trip on it if youd get any closer
Before youd realize
That the truth
Is right before your eyes


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Me: BH-49
WW-44
Married 20 years

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OH,

I'm impressed.

And I don't impress easily.

Good job!

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Way cool !!!
I downloaded it to my iTunes.

Who are the performers?
You and ???

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This song speaks to me...

Lyrics to Outsider, by "The Panic Channel":

I'm silent
in the rolling wake
of lucky and adored
ugly
a blur on the side
so easily ignored

speechless
in my screaming way
they all laugh and smile
spotlights
give the loved a stage
but only burn the shy

I will always be the outsider
will I always walk the road alone?

disguised
so the crowd can't see
my strategies and plans
the last
of the shopworn secrets
no one understands

I will always be the outsider
will I always walk the road alone?
will I always find it hard to
make this world of lies
my own

I'd give it all
all to find my way
inside you
I can't fake myself round
to fit the hole
that hides in you
looking at me
I know just what you'd say
if you cared

I will always be the outsider
will I always walk the road alone?
will I always find it hard to
so hard to
make this
world of lies
my own


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Custody of DDs / new job(s) / "I'm alive...and well"
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Just because I wanted to post it again...



And everybody be sure to check out Only Human's song above...

Outstanding!

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Like it a lot OH

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Godsmack "Serenity"

As I sit here and slowly close my eyes
I take another deep breath
And feel the wind pass through my body
I'm the one in your soul
Reflecting inner light
Protect the ones who hold you
Cradling your inner child

I need serenity
In a place where I can hide
I need serenity
Nothing changes, days go by

Where do we go when we just don't know
And how do we relight the flame when it's cold
Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing
And when will we learn to control

Tragic visions slowly stole my life
Tore away everything
Cheating me out of my time
I'm the one who loves you
No matter wrong or right
And every day I hold you
I hold you with my inner child

I need serenity
In a place where I can hide
I need serenity
Nothing changes, days go by

Where do we go when we just don't know
And how do we relight the flame when it's cold
Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing
And when will we learn to control

Where do we go when we just don't know
And how do we relight the flame when it's cold
Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing
And when will we learn to control






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