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When exposing my WH to family and friends how can I do this without telling him what I have such as the tape recordings?
Everyone says do not tell
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I'm no pro here but, why can't you just tell them without saying how you gained your information?
Married 9 yrs.
DC 7 & 2
DH EA 4/08-01/10
Dday #1 05/08
False recovery b4 I knew about MB 07/08
Dday #2 01/10
NC 01/10
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I'm no pro here but, why can't you just tell them without saying how you gained your information? Say that "you've been reliably informed", and you will "disclose your source when the time is right". When the news gets back to your WH, that should send him crazy trying to figure out who at the office tattled on him... 
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Because as you are exposing you aren't talking to WH and your family and friends don't need to know of your source. You just tell them you KNOW and have proof...the end. You do not need to explain yourself or your snooping methods...nor should you. You have no idea who is with you or against you at this point.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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The key words are Solid Evidence.
Keep recording, even after exposure.
You really get the good stuff then.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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CC, *please* keep to ONE thread. You are going to miss out on a LOT of good advice because people won't know your story. Ask the mods to combine all your threads.
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