You guys have helped me out a lot, sadly my wife missed the boat. Just when I thought she 'got it', she continually threw a sucker punch on me. I printed the whole thread by 'Janda' about TMI, it applied perfectly to us...she only read part of it and that was totally lost on her.

She is stuck in her world of her pain back then and will not let go of it when I bring up her A's. She insists that she has admitted to what she did, thats all I need to know. She has said sorry, case closed.

She just a bit ago said she is willing to talk about what happened back then this saturday, as we agreed, but she said bringing up those old emotions may cause her to change he personality and she can't control that.

I am tired of it all. I told her I am quitting this forum. I said how you guys have tried to help our marriage but she will not embrace what you guys have suggested.

So I told her when I trigger or get into a funk to leave me alone and don't ask what is going on. I will get over it whenever I do. It may take a hour or 2 days, just leave me alone.

I will have to deal with this on my own, in my own way. Thank you guys for trying to help. You have helped a lot of people on here, I have read them all....you guys rock.

Considering her unrequited and self indulgent attitude toward her devastation of the past, without just compensation, a personality change could be the best gift that ever happens in your M.

JMHO

All Blessings,
Jerry

Still a great place to vent if you need it. Though best to stay on original threat so we can recheck your story.