(My excuces,if some things are't clear is because my main language is spanish)

Here a long story short:
My husband left home when our only son was 5 months old, about 8 months ago. That was when his infidelity was revealed to all our relaties. I kept it secret because I got pregnant, right after knowing he was in love with another woman. Because I am 39, (he is 37) I wanted a baby so bad, so he reluctantly agreed.

I was expecting him to come back, so I kept talking to him mostly about our son. While awaiting for his decision Iam living with my mother, she still cares for our son. He took the decision of staying with his parents instead of returning home. He denies the relationship to his parents, and to me he says it's not my business to know. He is a professional musician and the OM, goes with him everywere as I used to do. They even traveled abroad to a shows with the band and some friends of ours. It's been a big embarrassment and a lot of pain.

He loves his baby and want to keep a close relationship with him. Iam not ready for D, and had been too depressed to make decisions. Is it too late for me to move to plan B? I was even considering moving away to another state and take an absent leave from work for a year. If I just stop talking to him and he keeps seeing the baby quite often, it will be allright with him and be quite happy. I don't know how to tell him that I wont talk to him anymore, but not on revenge, but to see if he agrees to stop seeing her and have a chance for us to roncile, but he said to me already that can't happen. Most probable he will see this as a desparete move of me trying to force him to com back and he doesn't want and it's quite true.
Thank you for ideas, and your time.

Did anyone find themselves reading this with a spanish accent? I'm as southern as they come but once she mentioned she was spanish.....funny.

Anyway, JJ, it is not too late for Plan B. In fact it's probably the best thing you can do for yourself right now. You're in a lot of pain and your WH is cake eating....he gets the OW and a nice friendly relationship with you. The good news is it sounds like you've been doing a Plan A (I assume unless your contact is full of LB's and AO's - you didn't mention that). So a going into Plan B would be the next step. But remember, Plan B is for you to heal and remove yourself from the pain of talking to a foggy wayward H. Don't worry about how he might see it. You're going to tell him why in a Plan B letter anyway so you'll have it all spelled out for him. This isn't a guarantee to save your M. But it will be the best thing you can do for yourself emotionally. I'm speaking from experience.

Now, read up on on what the abbreviations mean here because you'll need that first:

Acronyms & abbreviations



Then go here and scroll down until you see the links for Plan B:

Notable Posts

Also maybe someone can bump a good Plan B letter thread for you or other Plan B threads as well.

And, hopefully the vets will come along to help more.

Thank you soo much, I needed the push!