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Let's see your credentials.
Now show me yours. 
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dream weaver I am going to take this post as part of the extreme pain you are in after walking in on your WW and the OM. However, I can tell you that as a RECOVERED and VERY former wayward (and a 2x betrayed spouse) that you are wrong. Yes, there are some serial cheaters and heartless waywards that have character flaws that cannot be fixed. However some of us just did not have good boundaries or the maturity level needed to see the lines we were stepping over until we were fully caught up in the affair. I was NOT a bad human being before or during my A...but I was foolish, selfish, self centered and my actions were cruel.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
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No, just any that I am involved in.
An honest assessment.
As David Frost would say "Thank you very much. Thank you very much, indeed."
Now, back to your back-patting. (Don't dislocate your shoulder).
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>how great a marriage was PRE-A.
Mine wasn't great pre-a...it was okay. Not stellar, just okay.
Now it can be defined as great, fantabulous, wondermous, and joyous.
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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Let's see your credentials.
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NOW THAT IS UNCALLED FOR ZEL!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Must not take much to make you happy. That is good.
Infidelity stole 18 months of that.
I'm happily married.
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You got that right. But I cant change the past, I can only affect the future. How so? I am with Harely on this one. I think getting out is best for me, too. Then I would support you 100% But you seem to look at others who do not choose to leave poorly. They are simply choosing what is right for them.
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Me 34
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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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Dude, FWIW my marriage pre-A was very, very happy. We'd been married 28 years before my A. I was like Mrs W, hated adultery and adulterers, couldn't EVER see myself in a situation where I'd have an A, couldn't EVER imagine having sex with anyone but my H (the thought was just absolutely out of any realm of possibility). Men never hit on me and I certainly never hit on men.
I was do-goody and prissy and conservative and "married" to the point of nausea. Someone described me to my sister as "too buttoned up". Sounds like a sure recipe for an A waiting to happen and I mean that.
We've been married 35 years now and are as happy as sandboys.
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NOW THAT IS UNCALLED FOR ZEL!
MARRIAGE BUILDERS
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I was do-goody and prissy and conservative and "married" to the point of nausea. I just lmao trying to envision our Jen as do-goody and prissy. I'm going home now. Maybe my tush has beat me there.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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