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No political agenda. I just think she's doggone ingenious.

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That IS ingenious...


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I'm missing something. How is a skanky OW's act of humiliating BW "ingenious"?

The married man dumps OW and commits to his marriage. She blows up a photo of the two of them "in love", and posts it in several cities, to show his marriage for the sham she thinks it is. How is the BW supposed to feel about this?

I would have hated for OW to have done this to me. Please tell me you are not applauding this.


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Well, considering the price tag for it, I don't think the "average" BW needs to consider this kind of revenge as likely to happen to her. And I'm not suggesting that his wife could, should, or did enjoy it. I was more thinking of what the ex-mistress has done to her "lover", and his carefully-constructed life facade. Reverse exposure, with a vengeance.

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I feel badly for his wife and kid. Truly amazing the crazy stuff cheaters do. One would think the OW would be embarrassed, as well. Guess not.

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She probably did his wife a favor by doing the exposure...

Most BSs are reluctant to expose for one reason or another...well, looks like BW won't have to here.


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Originally Posted by thndrnltng
Well, considering the price tag for it, I don't think the "average" BW needs to consider this kind of revenge as likely to happen to her. And I'm not suggesting that his wife could, should, or did enjoy it. I was more thinking of what the ex-mistress has done to her "lover", and his carefully-constructed life facade. Reverse exposure, with a vengeance.

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It is indeed unaffordable for most, but OWs can and do expose the affair to people that know the married couple , out of revenge. OW in my situation threatened to tell my H's employers about their affair. He deserved that, but only if I decided to risk losing my financial security. It was not her decision to make, that I should lose my income and have my privacy invaded, as well as her having taken a part of my life, when I had no choice in the matter.

This skankho "ex-mistress" ruined several innocent people's lives with her intervention in this marriage. It is not for her to expose his carefully-constructed life facade, one that she helped create and many times laughed about behind BW's back.

I think exposure is the BS's prerogative, not the OP's. Skankhos on the OW board fantasise and plan this revenge for being dumped all the time. This is DIS-ingenious of them.


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
This is DIS-ingenious of them.
Of course, there is no such word as disingenious. I meant disingenuous.


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I can't understand how you can get involved with a MM knowing he is M and then get mad when he comes to his senses and wants to stop being a liar and a cheater. Some OW really are demented.

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Now if poster was from BS I would be sitting there applauding and whistling like mad.

But for the OW skank Hoe to feel justified to "expose" her M lover. WTH.

Think how desperate the OW was to pay upwards of $250K for this exposure. She is crazy and dangerous because she is looking for revenge.

When a BS does exposure it is to SAVE the M and pull it out of the darkness.

If we all had the money it is a great exposure marketing techinque.

Craig's list has a rant and rave section that you could put a few blind items about the OW and it costs you nothing. Amazing all the people that read this....hhhmmmm


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I should superimpose my WH and OW faces on the pic and mail it to all our friends as a way to expose their EA. I could even keep the quote, "Soulmates forever" as written to my WH by OW. Does snotty revenge work in Plan A?

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Come on people get with the program !! The other woman waited for 8-1/2 plus years for her man to leave his wife, only for him to go back to his wife.

Nice touch letting the world know that your a skank and willing to break up a family, sleep with a married man.

I hope what ever friends she has, had keep a close watch on their spouses when she is around because she has serious issues.

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I think this is more of a syndrome of "crabs in a basket". YaVaughnie decided Phillips was escaping the adultery trap and this is her attempt to pull him back down into the trap.

She demonstrates herself for the evil that ALL men and women possess within themselves when they attempt to steal a partner who has already promised themselves to another.

Phillips had fallen into the infidelity trap - actually chosen to place himself in the trap. But when he desired freedom to stay in his marriage, and attempted to climb out of the basket, YaVaughnie reached up and with 250,000 dollars tried to yank him back into the trap.

Hopefully he shakes her off. For she has proven herself to be evil.

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In a sort of strange way, I wish more OWs would do this.

It would save the BS the trouble of exposing....and not only that, would also show what scum they are. The OWs that is.


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Originally Posted by karmasrose
In a sort of strange way, I wish more OWs would do this.

It would save the BS the trouble of exposing....

I disagree. Exposure is for the purpose of ending the affair. This man ended his affair and has gone back to his wife apparently - The affair is O-V-E-R...Sure any damage to MM is deserved, his choices are what put him in this predictament. But the BW and their children? Haven't they been robbed of enough choices already? I agree with Sugarcane that exposure belongs to the BS.

This was pure vindictiveness on the part of the OW. OWs don't need encouragement to be anymore vindictive than they already are, and make no mistake about it, OWs DO read here. You can bet this OW wasn't just out to "get even" with MM - Oh no, she wanted a pound of flesh from the poor BW, and I think that is sick.

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