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I think waking up alone every morning would make me feel pretty unhappy and empty too. Perhaps you could get a pet , writer.
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LLL
Do you love your husband?
If he stopped being a moron and committed to recovery, would you want stay married?
If you answered yes to either of those, EXPOSE!
If you answered no, then divorce him and use the info for a settlement. Its as simple as this post.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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I actually have gotten used to it. And kind of like it now. My XWH snored so loud that it could wake up the neighbors. I didn't realize how little sleep I got until he left.
It's peaceful and quiet these days. Miss Mullet gets to listen to it now. Karma I tell ya.....
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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LLL
Do you love your husband?
If he stopped being a moron and committed to recovery, would you want stay married?
If you answered yes to either of those, EXPOSE!
If you answered no, then divorce him and use the info for a settlement. Its as simple as this post. ITA Still.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Thanks Chai. 
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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I actually have gotten used to it. And kind of like it now. My XWH snored so loud that it could wake up the neighbors. I didn't realize how little sleep I got until he left.
It's peaceful and quiet these days. Miss Mullet gets to listen to it now. Karma I tell ya..... Yes. I was relegated to sleeping in the basement, as my wife insisted our three daughteers sleep with her for years. It is nice to have my own place to sleep, now.
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I think waking up alone every morning would make me feel pretty unhappy and empty too. Perhaps you could get a pet , writer. I have pets. It's really not the same. LLL how are you doing?
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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I think waking up alone every morning would make me feel pretty unhappy and empty too. Perhaps you could get a pet , writer. I have pets. It's really not the same. LLL how are you doing? Better with pets, I assume.
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I think waking up alone every morning would make me feel pretty unhappy and empty too. Perhaps you could get a pet , writer. I have pets. It's really not the same. LLL how are you doing? Better with pets, I assume. Uh, no. My H smells much nicer, and he doesn't have fleas.
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Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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Good. I am sure my XWW had some type of parasites, thus, my preference for pets.
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writer, this last post made me laugh too hard. Maybe it's because Lady (our 100 pound lab) slept in the hous during the recent cold snap here. I love her, but OMG she stinks!!! H smells like Dove and Obsession. Big difference.
LLL I have been thinking about you. After having my H work in higher ed for awhile, I am convinced it really is like a mafia sometimes - all about the "family," ugh. I know you have a lot to deal with and think about right now. I hope you are finding some way to take care of YOU too.
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Whenever I'd bathe our dog, she would go outside and find some rotting carcass or something to roll on. Sounds kinda like my XWW, now that I think about it(well, she would bathe herself).
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My dog hates baths. He's a 60-lb. pit bull, so I don't really argue with him on that one. It takes an army to get him into the tub.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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I go to the humane society almost every week to pet dogs with my kids. We will get one once i have my new house.
Pitbulls all seem remarkably gentle and loving. I wonder if I can take a chance on one.
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My dog is very gentle and loving. He's a big sissy, really. He's afraid of water, hence the bath issues. One thing I have noticed though is that he isn't very tolerant of the baby. She loves him, but he's sort of afraid of her. He's never bitten anyone or shown any signs of aggression, but he shies away from her. So, for the time being, I'm keeping them separated, or only allowing them to be together under close supervision. He does fine with older kids, but my 16 month old hasn't learned how to be gentle yet, so maybe that's the problem.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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I'm concerned about the digressing going on. LLL hasn't posted since page 43 of this thread, and it seems as if it's a chat room for talking about dogs and who's posted the longest, among other things. I'm a fan of lightening up once in a while, but I think the thread is off track. I suggest we all wait to hear from LLL or maybe only post things directly related to helping her.
BW(me)63, FWH 63, 1 adult son
Married 40 years
DDay 10/03
Last NC 2/04
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I'm concerned about the digressing going on. LLL hasn't posted since page 43 of this thread, and it seems as if it's a chat room for talking about dogs and who's posted the longest, among other things. I'm a fan of lightening up once in a while, but I think the thread is off track. I suggest we all wait to hear from LLL or maybe only post things directly related to helping her. She went to her sister's place for a few days.
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She went to her sister's place for a few days. Does that mean we can party while she's gone?
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Apparently we are. IDK I think she just might enjoy the light hearted banter about doggies until we get back into the meat of her problems. She loves her dogs!
God's Blessings,
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Me, BW-57
FWH 54
4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us
In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
One day at a time by God's grace.
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She went to her sister's place for a few days. Does that mean we can party while she's gone? I see no reason why not. It will keep her thread at the forefront. Now, any cat or hamster stories?
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