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If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them. If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
See the ruin on the hill, where the smoke is hanging still, Like an echo of an age long forgotten. There's a story of a home crushed beneath those blackened stones, And the roof that fell before the beams were rotten.
Cecil Darby loved his wife, and he laboured all his life, To provide her with material possessions. And he built for her a home of the finest wood and stone. And the building soon became his sole obsession.
Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised, And the silhouette was seen for miles around. And the gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky, But it only took one night to bring it down, When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.
Though they shared a common bed, there was precious little said, In the moments that were set aside for sleepin'. For his busy dreams were filled with the rooms he'd yet to build, And he never heard young Helen Darby weeping.
Then one night he heard a sound, as he laid his pencil down, And he traced it to her door and turned the handle. And the pale light of the moon through the window of the room, Split the shadows where two bodies lay entangled.
Oh, it took three-hundred days, for the timbers to be raised, And the silhouette was seen for miles around. And the gables reached as high as the eagles in the sky, But it only took one night to bring it down, When Darby's castle tumbled to the ground.
Nobody ever looked back on their life from their death bed and said, "I wish I'd spent a lot more time at work..."
I need a sign to let me know you're here All of these lines are being crossed over the atmosphere I need to know that things are gonna look up 'Cause I feel us drowning in a sea spilled from a cup
When there is no place safe and no safe place to put my head When you feel the world shake from the words that are said
[Chorus:] And I'm calling all angels I'm calling all you angels
I won't give up if you don't give up [Repeat x4]
I need a sign to let me know you're here 'Cause my TV set just keeps it all from being clear I want a reason for the way things have to be I need a hand to help build up some kind of hope inside of me
[Chorus]
When children have to play inside so they don't disappear While private eyes solve marriage lies cause we don't talk for years And football teams are kissing Queens and losing sight of having dreams In a world that what we want is only what we want until it's ours
Skald was singing this to me the other day and it made me cry.
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Yea yea Dancin' in the dark middle of the night Takin' your heart and holdin' it tight Emotional touch touchin' my skin And asking you to do what you've been doin' all over again
Oh it's a beautiful thing don't think I can keep it all in I just gotta let you know what it is that won't let me go
It's your love It just does something to me It sends a shock right through me I can't get enough And if you wonder About the spell I'm under Oh it's your love
Better than I was, more than I am And all of this happened by taking your hand And who I am now is who I wanted to be And now that we're together, I'm stronger than ever I'm happy and free
Oh it's a beautiful thing, Don't think I can keep it all in If you asked me why I've changed, All I gotta do is say your sweet name
It's your love It just does something to me It sends a shock right through me I can't get enough And if you wonder About the spell I'm under Oh, it's your love
Baby, Oh oh, oh,
Oh it's a beautiful thing, Don't think I can keep it all in I just gotta let you konw what it is that won't let me go
It's your love It just does something to me It sends a shock right through me I can't get enough And if you wonder About the spell I'm under, Oh it's your love It's your love, it's your love, it's your love
I'm glad this thread was bumped...a few days ago I heard this song and it reminded me of what my DH and I did right after Plan B ended...we got small matching blue stars tattooed on our wrists (he has two, I have one to make the "three blue stars" from this song).
It was his idea (he had to talk to me into it) but knowing how much it meant to him and that it was from this song called "Built to Last", I agreed:
Built to Last by the Grateful Dead:
There are times when you can beckon, There are times when you must call. You can take a lot of reckoning, But you can't take it all.
There are times when I can help you out, And times when you must fall. There are times when you must live in doubt And I can't help at all.
Three blue stars rise on the hill Say no more now just be still All these trials soon be past Look for something built to last A wind held by the collar, Yes, a cloud held by the breeze You can walk on coals of fire But sometimes you must freeze
There are times when you offend me And I do the same to you If we can't or won't forget it I guess we could be through
One blue star sets on the hill Call it back you never will One more star sinks in the past Show me something built to last
Built to last till time itself falls tumbling from the wall Built to last till sunshine fails and darkness moves on all Built to last while years roll past like cloudscapes in the sky Show me something built to last and something built to try
There are times when you get hit upon Try hard but you cannot give Other times you'd gladly part With what you need to live
Don't waste your breath to save your face When you have done your best And even more is asked of you Fate will decide the rest
All the stars are gone but one Morning breaks here comes the sun Cross the sky now sinking fast Show me something built to last
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007
In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
I think there is a level of forgiveness here but I recognize I'm nowhere near it. Maybe some folks out there are in this place. I wonder what it feels like....
"In the Sun" Michael Stipe (REM) and Chris Martin (Coldplay)
I picture you in the sun wondering what went wrong And falling down on your knees asking for sympathy And being caught in between all you wish for and all you seen And trying to find anything you can feel that you can believe in
May God's love be with you Always May God's love be with you
I know i would apologize if i could see in your eyes 'Cause when you showed me myself,you know, i became someone else But i was caught in between all you wish for and all you need I picture you fast asleep A nightmare comes You can't keep awake
May God's love be with you Always May God's love be with you
'Cause if i find If i find my own way How much will i find If i find If i find my own way How much will i find You
I don't know anymore What it's for I'm not even sure If there is anyone who is in the sun Will you help me to understand 'Cause i been caught in between all you wish for and all you need Maybe you're not even sure what it's for Any more than me
May God's love be with you Always May God's love be with you Always
Here's a song I wrote when WW and I were in the middle of the storm. This was my healing song and the process of writing it helped me get through a dark dark time. If someone get's something out of it I'd consider myself honored. Feel free to download it or stream it
Right Before Your Eyes I�ve been around the world Searchin for a miracle Been looking for something to ease my troubled mind I took the wrong road I took the easy way out I was runnin scared All my life
It�s funny how the simple things Can slowly pass you by Bridges burn and castles crumble Before you realize
That everything that you need Is right before your eyes You�d trip on it if you�d get any closer Before you�d realize That the answer Is right before your eyes
And in my darkest hour I feel the power of the truth Come crashin like a storm Down on me There�s no more defenses There�s no more denial Cause only truth Can set will set you free
It�s funny how the simple things Can slowly pass you by Bridges burn and castles crumble Before you realize
That everything that you need Is right before your eyes You�d trip on it if you�d get any closer Before you�d realize That the truth Is right before your eyes
I�ve been runnin so long looking for a clue But every step I take just leads back to you
Everything that you need Is right before your eyes You�d trip on it if you�d get any closer Before you�d realize That the truth Is right before your eyes
Dday 2001 Me: BH-49 WW-44 Married 20 years
Recovered after years of hard work and above all...Honesty. It's been years since I've been here but I'm still finding it therapeutic.
I'm silent in the rolling wake of lucky and adored ugly a blur on the side so easily ignored
speechless in my screaming way they all laugh and smile spotlights give the loved a stage but only burn the shy
I will always be the outsider will I always walk the road alone?
disguised so the crowd can't see my strategies and plans the last of the shopworn secrets no one understands
I will always be the outsider will I always walk the road alone? will I always find it hard to make this world of lies my own
I'd give it all all to find my way inside you I can't fake myself round to fit the hole that hides in you looking at me I know just what you'd say if you cared
I will always be the outsider will I always walk the road alone? will I always find it hard to so hard to make this world of lies my own
3-DDays, 4-OMs*, Plan-D May 9, 2009, final Dec 2010 (FREEDOM!) Custody of DDs / new job(s) / "I'm alive...and well"
As I sit here and slowly close my eyes I take another deep breath And feel the wind pass through my body I'm the one in your soul Reflecting inner light Protect the ones who hold you Cradling your inner child
I need serenity In a place where I can hide I need serenity Nothing changes, days go by
Where do we go when we just don't know And how do we relight the flame when it's cold Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing And when will we learn to control
Tragic visions slowly stole my life Tore away everything Cheating me out of my time I'm the one who loves you No matter wrong or right And every day I hold you I hold you with my inner child
I need serenity In a place where I can hide I need serenity Nothing changes, days go by
Where do we go when we just don't know And how do we relight the flame when it's cold Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing And when will we learn to control
Where do we go when we just don't know And how do we relight the flame when it's cold Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing And when will we learn to control
