I am currently in Plan A with WW. We have two kids. She is a stay-at-home mom.

I've read that it is not advisable for custody reasons to leave the marital home before going to plan D.

So how would I go to plan B without jeopardizing myself in court?

Dunno...I just got custody of my daughter back in December after trying off an on for 14 years.

I guess, I would say go talk to an attorney, they would be able to give you the best advice and most attorney's wave the fee for initial consultation.

What I'm thinking is file for separation and custody, then start Plan B. Take the kids with you when you move out. Until there is a custody order in place she can't really do anything.

When I left my ex-wife, I took my daughter with me. She called the police and they told her there was nothing they could do because I was her father and there was no custody order.

If you think the kids would be in danger if they were to stay with your WW, you can have your attorney file for emergency custody. I had to do this at one point when I picked my daughter up on a Friday and she had bruises on her back. I had an emergency custody order Monday morning.

TE,

On your signature line you have PLAN A 01/04/2010.

Does this mean you starting Plan A on 01/04?

If so what was the haps from 09/2009 till 01/04?

Is the A still going on?

I guess I should search your previous posts.

kirk

From 09/2009 until the New Year. I was a wreck. I guess you would call it Plan Doormat.

I was initially just completely devastated and spent a few weeks at my BIL's apartment out of state. I had a few nights when I drank a lot and went crazy, screaming and yelling. I lost a lot of weight.

I searched through all WW's emails to see what I could learn.

I gave her hell when I found out about a secret email she had set up.

I combed through our cell phone records and pieced the entire timeline of the affair together.

I gave her more hell when she received a text from him on her birthday and then around Christmas.

We went to see an MC each week, but that was a disaster.

Exposure was on 01/04/2010. Been super husband/dad since. No alcohol since the New Year. New MC who is great, but expensive.

We are now in the same bed again but no sex. Plan A is working, but it's not easy. For every step forward it seems like we take a step back.