I know that sounds like a dumb question. But I often wonder if this is true in my case. Anybody believes in root workers? I say this because my husband is a totally different man since he met the OW. It's like she casted a spell on him, like he was stuck on stupid. Slowly returning to himself.

If only you knew the type of man that he has been these past 26 years. He was a great husband, father and son. Then all of a sudden in June of last year, bang! Something happen. It's like the man that I've been sleeping with before I found out was someone else. I look at him sometimes and tell him I want my husband back, you are not my husband. I tell him that I believe that she cast some sort of voodoo spell on him. Her last name is a funny last name, one that sounds as if this is her family life style. I've told her that and of course she denined it. My husband has had women throw themselves at him dozens and dozens of times and he always set boundaries and never act out of the ordinary. So what was the difference with her, she isn't even attractive. I think she cast a spell on him, or am I simply making excuses for his behavior. But deep down inside, that' what I think. Anyone ever think that? He has never told so many lies before, my husband has always been honest and very intelligent when making wise decisions, but she just smooth talked him to the point that he forgot all about me, the kids and most importantly his parents whom he idolize. Something happen to him, what was it?

I have always been fascinated my that sort of thing. I was always a witch for Halloween when I was little. I actually met a girl when I was about ten whose mom was a real witch; I was curious, but it kind of freaked me out.

I have read some though on it and it is my understanding that there is good and bad magic. Good magic isn't forceful, it's loving; kind of like prayers. Bad magic is dark...Meaning; at least with my understanding, that if someone were to put a forceful love spell onto someone, it may work, but the reprocussions are horrendous.

So, if that were the case then expect that whoever placed the spell (the OW?) will suffer dire consequence.

I wonder that sometimes too, but the OW in my case is outwardly kind of pretty; but obviously she doen't have any inner beauty.

I'm no expert on this stuff, but have read some. So, if I'm wrong, someone please pipe in.

Success is the worst magic spell I've ever seen, especially for men. It really does turn them into different creatures with no heart, no soul and no brain - just a horrific sense of entitlement for being so wonderful and successful, convinced that the rules no longer apply to them.

The change is so profound that yeah, it can seem like some kind of spell. But it's not. It's just people throwing away their higher human brain functions (since those pesky rules no longer apply to their very special selves) and living like animals - letting selfishness and instinct control their lives instead of reason and intelligence.

It's not magic. It's just pathetic and destructive and sad. Really.

I believe that witchcraft is real, I believe that people can put roots on your or cast a spell. I've seen it done to one of my friends. Her husband's mother did it to her. I believe that's why what happen, happen so quick, a out of the blue change in my husband. He is slowly turning back into his old self. This man has never lied to his parents, they are elder and his day had a 5 way bypass heart trouble and never likes to do things that would upset him. However, he lied to his dad face, a year ago, he would have never ever done that to me or his parents. Something happen to him.

I agree Mulan. Success does give them a sense of entitlement; it's sick. I do believe in other forces though too. I think maybe it's true the saying, "money is the root of all evil" because even though my H and I had finally "made it" right before he left, we had always talked about how our best times were ironically the hardest times. It's funny how adversity brings hearts so close together. I bet that is one big reason why there was so much less divorce in the old days...No TV, no computers, no fast paced/non emotional life..It was family and times were harder; people stuck together.

Maybe that doesn't make sense, but it does to me somehow..

Greed, lust, entitlement, lies.... maybe not a spell but certainly the devil at work.

I truly believe that the devil has moved in to our culture in secretive ways. Blatant sex and porn brought into our homes via the computer. More affairs and divorce. People afraid to stand up for morals and values. Families torn apart and blended. And many people choose to ignore the influence of the devil in their lives. Because who wants to worry about consequences.

My WH has also become a liar, a cheater, a thief... a former amazing father who has now turned his back on our kids. Very disrespectful to his parents.

I turn to God daily for guidance and comfort and love. Just wish I didn't feel the hand of the devil trying to drag me down.

Yes, my WH needs an exorcism because the devil is inside of him. The devil brought the OW into his life and took WH away from the love of God and our family.

Amen Holyheart! But I would venture to bet that most WS's would say that it wasn't the devil but God that brought the OP into thier lives...My WH told me that God knows his heart, so this is all okay. Yeah right! It is our culture...so many people now take vows so lightly. I didn't; maybe I'm just old fashioned.

I didn't say, "to love, honor, and cherish til death do us part OR until some tramp comes along that you feel like getting your jollies with"

Okay, I'm getting tired and cranky now...I should be nicer.

I over heard my girls saying something about their dad acting like someone had dont evil magic during the A. I thought it pretty insightful my self.

In case you hadnt heard it yet; Gimbles Formula:

"An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect."

Nice Lil, Makes sooo much sense too!Your girls are very insightful! Kid's amamze me, it's almost like we get a blurred sense of reality when we get older. Kids are so pure, they see right through all the lies.

Being a Christian, I do believe Satan is real, nd that his work abounds these days. But t relate it to spells, in my case, if anything, I cast a spell on mysef,so to speak. I drown out that voice of conscience (or voice of the Holy Spirit), selfishy and purposefully turned my thoughts and eyes in another direction, and lied to myself about my mrriage and my husband until I could stomach what my flesh wanted to do. It wasn't - as a though at the time - a romantic rescue frm my forever empty life. It was cold, selfish, and sinister. The only way to break that "spell" was to come face to face with what I had done and who I had become, and it wasn't pretty. Ugh, is waywardness ever pretty???

It's funny you brought this up. My DH swears that the XOW put voodoo on him. We were in a third world country when he started and voodoo is a religion there and practiced quite often. The XOW washed my DH feet on one ocassion in some kind of oil (dummy let her of course). My DH said that when he asked her why she was doing it she told him she wanted to keep herself in his life forever. Another native of that country told me that single women used the foot washing ritual as a way to trap MM. I told my DH if his boundaries were in place the XOW wouldn't have had the opportunity to put voodoo on him. It's kind of funny in a way because my DH is so spooked about what happened and the entire A. Last summer the XOW came to the US for training and a friend told me about it. I told my DH and he would call me all day at work to make sure I was OK and when I got off from work he had to escort me home. I don't know if the XOW did put voodoo on him but when he returned from his trips I had very strange dreams when I slept at night and I felt like I was dying in my sleep. I am a Christian but I do know that witchcraft exists.

I believe that Satan is real. He offers temptation but only WE can change our heart.

I believe that we give the devil more than his due in this regard.

Read Psalm 1 and see the effect that sin has on our lives. It corrupts us and brings about spiritual devastation. This 'bewitchment' is the same condition that brings about the 'alien' effect on WS's.

I think the OM liked my XWW's "root work", particularly the "oral root work".

I know I may sound crazy for believing this, but I do believe that this is what happen to my H. To lie and disrespect me is one thing, but at 46 years old, this man never lies to his parents, especially his dad. But this affair turned him into someone else. He has always been a family man, a great example of a husband, father, son, grandfather and father in law. I keep going back to the OW, you have to see her to really get where I'm coming from. The sad thing is, I found out about the affair on September 1, 2009. He had been having the affair from the middle of July to August 31. I keep trying to remember how things were back in July and August, and I don't remember anything that would have cause him to get involved with this monster.

Don't buy thst, 26. Your H was fully competent when he made the decison to cheat.

I know, but the change was so shocking, or shall I say he's never had a lying tongue, never. Then all of a sudden, there goes all the lies, what brought that on. But I do believe her family deals in witchcraft and that's one of the main reasons that I believe that.

26, I do believe there is a spiritual aspect to all this, too. The fact that waywards all babble the same insane lines and even LOOK different makes me believe there is a spiritual aspect. Betrayed spouses often see a marked personality change, out of character behavior along with facial changes. Some of the WS' here will even show you pictures of how different they looked while wayward: they looked evil.

Witchcraft? Wow, there's a subterfuge I hadn't seen on these boards.

26years, he was hit with the high of the A and became an immediate addict. All his previous morality became suppressed, in favor of getting that next high from the OW.

There is even a CHEMICAL reaction to the high that comes with an affair.

Not witchcraft but when you allign yourself with Satan and his ways, I'm with Mel, anything can happen.

God's Blessings,

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