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Marriage Builders Forums Infidelity Surviving an Affair Should I Expose someone else's A?

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Should I Expose someone else's A? #2318948 02/05/10 04:11 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 205 C cobol_girl OP Member
OP cobol_girl Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 205	My BFF showed me an email where a friend of hers (distant acquaitance of mine) admitted she was having an A with her ex-boyfriend who happens to be a priest (terrible, isn't it). In the email the WS stated that she had never fallen out of love with her XBF and had been sleeping with him on and off for her entire ten year M. She said she never really loved her H and only M him because her XBF was a priest and couldn't M her. I guess he can commit adultery but he can't M. I am terribly disgusted. I know her H and I think he is a really good father and H. Should I send an anonymous email to her H letting him know that his W is cheating on him? I wish someone would have told me that my DH was cheating when he was having an A. I want to let him know so bad I can hardly take it. What do you think?

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? cobol_girl #2318959 02/05/10 04:15 PM
Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 596 U Unfettered Member
Unfettered Member U Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 596	I wouldn't do it anonymously. He would be more likely to discount it or ask his wife who would deny and go further underground. If you know the guy, just tell him directly. He will almost certainly thank you for it. Last edited by Unfettered; 02/05/10 04:15 PM. ex-WW had 2 PAs in first 2 years. Buh-bye. Divorce finalized: 1/28/09 Now just living and loving again.

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? Unfettered #2318993 02/05/10 04:35 PM
Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 2,888 Darwin's waiting room F Fred_in_VA Member
Fred_in_VA Member F Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 2,888 Darwin's waiting room	Show him the email. You can't state for certain you know the facts, but that this is the news you've been reading. And yes, he will thank you for it. Later. Much later. Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words. St. Francis of Assissi

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? cobol_girl #2319006 02/05/10 04:42 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Originally Posted by cobol_girl admitted she was having an A with her ex-boyfriend who happens to be a priest (terrible, isn't it). Are you serious? I'd take it to the church. ASAP It is a dangerous thing to hide this level of evil within a church community. LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? Pepperband #2319012 02/05/10 04:48 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 205 C cobol_girl OP Member
OP cobol_girl Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 205	I really wish I knew what parish he was a member of, I would sing like a bird. I am going to forward her H the email she sent to my BFF. I will have to find a way to find his email.

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? cobol_girl #2319018 02/05/10 04:52 PM
Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 5,860 T TheRoad Member
TheRoad Member T Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 5,860	Expose this BH. If you can then expose at his church.

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? TheRoad #2319025 02/05/10 04:57 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	cobolgirl, you will be doing such a GOOD DEED for so many people if you expose this affair! "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? MelodyLane #2319030 02/05/10 04:58 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,277 SDF-1 G Gack1 Member
Gack1 Member G Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,277 SDF-1	YES! Me 34 WW 30 Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08. Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08 The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? Gack1 #2319041 02/05/10 05:10 PM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 113 D dsd Member
dsd Member D Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 113	cobolgirl,expose to all the churches in the area he is from. They will know were he preaches from and then will know all about him and morally couldnt give him any recommendations for another job!

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? dsd #2319165 02/05/10 09:30 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 2,455 H hope3343 Member
hope3343 Member H Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 2,455	Since priests are far and few; google him and I bet you will get the info you need and all the good deeds he is doing for the community. Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09 Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? hope3343 #2319197 02/05/10 10:56 PM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,698 New Zealand L lildoggie Member
lildoggie Member L Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,698 New Zealand	I'd expose in a heart beat. Forward the email to the BH and to all the churches. Many churches work in a cluster, and if not, they do all know of each other because of the community projects they are involved in tend to have overlapping. Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? lildoggie #2321154 02/09/10 07:18 PM
Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 7,464 Sydney, Australia B bigkahuna Member
bigkahuna Member B Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 7,464 Sydney, Australia	Yes I exposed an affair to a BW a few years ago. She was very grateful. Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.

Re: Should I Expose someone else's A? bigkahuna #2321166 02/09/10 07:31 PM
Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 2,888 Darwin's waiting room F Fred_in_VA Member
Fred_in_VA Member F Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 2,888 Darwin's waiting room	Yes. 'Nuff said. Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words. St. Francis of Assissi

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