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A while back I saw a study that stated that a large percentage of affairs are directly related to Facebook/Myspace/etc usage.
I can't find it anymore.
Does anyone remember where to find that study?
BH: 46
FWW: 44
3 DD: 20,17,11
Married 24 years
PA/EA: 5/08
DDay: 6/08
NC: 8/08
Previous EA 1998 confessed 8/08
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I don't know where to find it, but I certainly believe it.
Two weeks ago I found a mssg. on my husband's Facebook that has opened up a whole can of worms....and he has now moved out and filed for legal separation.
I have read that lawyers are saying 1 out of every 5 divorces is realted to an inappropriate Facebook relationship/hook-up.
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I can't find it now, but I read something a few months ago that said social networking sites such as facebook where the cause of 30% of extra marital affairs in 2009.
I don't even know how you could gather such data, but I believe it!!
It seems like most of the affairs in the SAA forum have a facebook component of some kind.
Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
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Facebook was a huge part of my FWW's EA - in fact, she re-connected with an old friend on FB and that's what started it all. It's part of a very dangerous cultural phenomena where spouses who are bored or unhappy find 'soul mates' from the past that they 'were always meant to be with' - old classmates, old girl/boyfriends, neighbors, coworkers, etc. It's dangerous because some people cannot separate fantasy from reality. I personally feel like I 'was meant to be' with Brooklyn Decker (SI Swimsuit Issue, 2010), but alas, that's not reality. 
Last edited by Linus; 02/09/10 01:15 PM. Reason: Explanation of who Brooklyn Decker is . . .
Me: BH 60 - Married 21 years
ExW had an EA beginning 09/09 (Facebook)
After a few false recoveries, I filed for D 05/11
D final 03/12
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Ditto here Linus. OW and WH "reconnected" on FB. According to OW they have been corresponding "innocently" for a long long time. Didn't I know? Didn't he tell me? They weren't hiding anything...LOL, LOL!
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BW 40 (me)
WS 37
DD-14
DS-10
H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
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I personally feel like I 'was meant to be' with Brooklyn Decker, but alas, that's not reality. Never heard of her, had to look her up. Brooklyn Decker (born April 12, 1987) Wow, I'm only 33 and I actually own a truck thats a year older than her.
Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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FB is how my WS and OW started communicating.
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Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
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PlanB:03/25/10
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I personally feel like I 'was meant to be' with Brooklyn Decker, but alas, that's not reality. Never heard of her, had to look her up. And here I thought she was related to Blackand.
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I remember posting on a thread about a month ago..."Affairs on the rise because of the internet" by Only_Human. I shared this article... http://www.army.mil/-news/2006/10/02/394-cyber-affairs---are-they-the-new-adultery/
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WS 37
DD-14
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
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Here's a site cited (no pun intended) in the Army news article... http://chatcheaters.com/
Married 11/21/03
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WS 37
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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And here I thought she was related to Blackand. Blackand must be her evil, power tool wielding older step sister. 
Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
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And here I thought she was related to Blackand. Blackand must be her evil, power tool wielding older step sister. I'm glad someone got it. I thought I was slipping there for a while.
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Facebook was the vehicle used to reveal my wifes A's.
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my wh and his highschool girlfriend reconnected on facebook and now they live together.
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I can believe it. My WW is on Facebook and Myspace all the time. All kinds of friends of the opposite sex. These sites are trouble.
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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My marriage is ending. Online chat room was where she met the OM.
"But EVE, it's only and apple"
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xWW- 45
Married 15years, together for 20
served D papers on 6/2/09
Divorce final 12/19/2010
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FB/Twitter/Myspace are tools, just like email, cellphone, a credit card, and a car.
They can be used for good or they can be used to conduct an affair.
FB/Twitter/Myspace isn't the problem. The problem is poor boundaries. I agree though that these tools, along with cellphones, email, and texting, make affairs easier to conduct.
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