Yeah that could be. She called me the other day and was crying because I have been doing so many nice things for her and she didn't know why she didn't enjoy them like she should. She just says that she was so bitter and has been bitter for a long time and she cannot enjoy the nice things because of that. Although, I think that she is starting to put things together and she sees why. She knows that the only way she is going to get better is if she lets go of all that happened last spring and we basically start fresh.

She cannot let go of it. She wants you to forget it ever happened, so you two can "start fresh."

It's like she owes you $10,000...she wants the loan forgiven and she wants to borrow another $10,000.

You cannot start fresh. Tell her that you intend to work through these problems, so that this never happens again.

And work on the NC letter PRONTO!

Yeah,i guess that forgiving is easier than forgetting. I will definately talk to her about the letter, that is a much better idea than her talking to him. We will definately work through the problems to help so that they don't happen again. I know that I need to especially make more of an effort.

"She also said that she was going to talk to the OM to clear up any ideas that he may have about her. "

NC means NC. No reason for WW to still see the OM.

Ok, so right now I am confused once again. She has spent a lot of time with me the last couple of days. She comes home and hangs out, but she still doesn't want to move in. I know for a fact that she doesn't contact OM when she is gone and doesn't go to his house. Spending all the time with me seems to have stressed her out. She says that it is a lot for the last few days and she still doesn't know if she wants to fix it. Right now I am in the position where I don't know what to do. We are talking about past issues a lot and I think that it is helping and she is explaining things a lot more than she did before. She tells me that she is still uncomfortable around me and she isn't used to it yet. Like sometimes I will touch her leg or rub her back or things like that and I can tell that she gets a little uncomfortable about it. I am trying to talk with her to figure things out and she is also trying to talk to me, but she left tonight just stressed out and said she just needed some alone time because she has been alone for so long that it is now comforting to be alone then around other people. I think that the OM problem is mostly gone and i am still drilling her that he needs to be out of the situation totally. I don't know what to do about the comfort level issue right now. I don't want to push the entire thing on her, but I just enjoy my time with her so much, anyone got any ideas?

There is no way you can know for a fact anything when your wife is away from you.

You must tell her that she must write an NC letter and YOU will be the one to mail it.