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In another time I enjoyed Valentine's Day. My XWH would bring me flowers and we would go out as a family.
Just thinking about when XWH "was a real boy" before he turned into pinochio and his nose started growing.
How will I survive tomorrow. Took a cleaning job for about 4 hours just to fill the day.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Did you see my post earlier today on my thread? I went loopy there for a short while.
Thankfully, I came to my senses before it was too late and I really regretted what I'd done.
I'm going to pull one of my old, unused space heaters up from the basement, put it into my garage tomorrow, and clean my car (it's been weeks and the mix of soil, sand, salt and grime are just getting to me).
It's my Valentine to myself.
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Make sure you get a box of chocolates in a heart shaped box while you clean out our car.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Make sure you get a box of chocolates in a heart shaped box while you clean out our car. Sorry, I'm only cleaning my car. All others will have to wait. 
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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Make sure you get a box of chocolates in a heart shaped box while you clean out our car. Sorry, I'm only cleaning my car. All others will have to wait. those chocolates are for you! lol
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Do what I would do, watch a "man" movie (Missing in Action, or Air Force One, or Terminator 2, or something) and eat nachos all day. You run enough that you can eat like a pig without worrying anyway! 
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I've already noticed that Valentines Day is going to be tough for me. Just a month and a half out of D-Day and still separated with no hope in sight. My WW and I used to have a great time on Valentines Day and so it hurts a lot. I will probably sleep in and then watch the NBA all-star game with family. I hope the day won't be too bad. 
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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Do what I would do, watch a "man" movie (Missing in Action, or Air Force One, or Terminator 2, or something) and eat nachos all day. You run enough that you can eat like a pig without worrying anyway! LOL Karma, Geez wish I could. My son (10) usually loves T2, AF1, and all other action movies like that. But now...he is on this trend..."Father of the Bride", "Wedding Crashers", any romance lovey dovey movies. I try to go into the other room and do work, but I hear it all no matter how much I try to block. As far as pigging out...still no appetite. Best diet in the world, but seriously I'd rather be 25 lbs overweight and be happy than be on this dang diet. Yep, V-Day sucks!
Married 11/21/03
BW 40 (me)
WS 37
DD-14
DS-10
H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
I can only get stronger!
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This is the first Valentine's Day without my WH since I was 16(18 years ago today was our first date). It is my parent's anniversary and my Mom is living with her AP. I bought my kids a valentine's present, but this year i am celebrating something else today. HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR It is the year of the tiger. 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Perhaps all us BSs will turn into Tigers this year to tame our WSs.
Valentine's Day two years ago -- the one time I went face to face with OW. The story is on my thread. Basically, I barged into her house, WH defended HER and threw me up against the door, OW tried to punch me and called the cops, WH threw me out of her house, and I later had to retrieve my glasses.
My kids were proud of me for standing up to her and him. He and her were "back on" after I "scared" her.
Whoda thunk that two years later we'd be going through a D?
Maybe I'll send WH a text today... Happy Jerry Springer Day.
M 25 yrs, 3 teens
Dday 12/07
5ish False Recoveries (all in 2008)
12/08 WH moves in w/OW, her kids
Plan B/D/FU -- depending on the day
He files 1/09; D final 12/2012
"I'm moving on"
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What I decided to do (about a week ago) is to buy a $20 supermarket gift card and give it to someone today (Valentine's Day).
The criteria of giving it is to either
a panhandler
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a family taking a walk with the kids
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an elderly person (even if they have the dough...it is useful).
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I will also celebrate Chinese New Year : )
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That is so awesome, Reading. True conditional love. Jesus will be proud!!!
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What I decided to do (about a week ago) is to buy a $20 supermarket gift card and give it to someone today (Valentine's Day).
The criteria of giving it is to either
a panhandler
or
a family taking a walk with the kids
or
an elderly person (even if they have the dough...it is useful).
And
I will also celebrate Chinese New Year : ) That's a very good idea. Helping others always seems to help yourself. I feel better about myself when I can help put a smile on others faces.
Married 7/10/04
Me: BS 32, WW:26
D-Day 12/23/09
Separation 12/28/09-
OM Revealed 1/12/10
WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10
Divorce papers served 10/15/10
Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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Hey Holyheart, your as good as Tiger Wood's golf club swing BS .....Way to Go!!!! 
Me BS 54
XWW 51 Divorce final 1/9/12
DS26 DS24 Twin DD's22 Married 29years
D-dates No1 01/2007, No2 08/2008(ongoing)
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I don't know......it didn't bother me all that much. I had chaibaby today which took my mind off things. He's my new Valentine.
Maybe I am recovered even more than I thought.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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Maybe I am recovered even more than I thought ITA- Happy Valentine's Day Chai!
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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No real triggers here today. FWW surprised me with a nice chocolate cake that really went down well . Yes, once or twice I did wonder what VD might have meant to her and the OM during the A, but it's really mostly thoughts, not feelings. Almost five years out from DD here, BTW.
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What date, MiM? I'm 26 March 2005.
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His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Valentines day means nothing to me.
Nothing.
It's nothing more than some thought up religious holiday promoting fornication based on the aleged actions of an unproven sain't.
Funny how it falls on the lunar new year so the religious fanatics could include the savages in their control.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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What date, MiM? I'm 26 March 2005. End of April / Early May. It was more like D-Week instead of D-Day. What a nightmare. See "MiM's Story" for further details.
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