My WH said today for probably the tenth time that he is moving out to live with OW. I think he may mean it this time. Any advice for how to deal with him after he moves out or between now and when he does move out.

Affair has been going on for about 14 months. He has been riding the fence between her and me since December when he told me about the affair. We have continued to have a very good physical relationship and spend time together when we can since he also has been spending free time with OW. I have been doing Plan A.

He fully admits I am the rational, logical choice, says he loves me but does not feel a "spark" with me (been married almost 12 years with two young children). He said OW makes him feel good. Bad things about OW according to WH: her values and behavior (she cheated on her husband before), trust, nothing to talk about beyond gossip, she is immature. I listen to this and wonder who has taken his head. All these negatives and the only positive is she makes him feel good.

Any advice is appreciated. How long will it take the fog to wear off once they move in together? How should I treat him when he comes over to visit children? He has even said he would like to continue physical relationship with me after he moves out. Ugh!

On your * first thread *

you say WH is drinking and abusing prescription drugs.

Here is my opinion.

Call an attorney.
See what your options are.
If WH is "using" you might be able to restrict his visit with the kids to SUPERVISED only.

So far, you seem reluctant to take any advice you've been given by MBers.

I fully expect my advice to be ignored.

I have talked to an attorney, and yes I should be able to get supervised visits unless he can show through drug testing that he is clean.

I think his plan to see the kids is just to come back over to our house.

One other update - WH broke up with OW last Sunday after supposedly seeing the light. He showed me all messages she sent him that night and the next day. On Tuesday he wanted to compose a final email to send to her and we did it together. On Tuesday afternoon he talked to her on the phone and it was back on.