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I am going to meet the OM's wife this weekend. We have already spoken on the phone.<P>When I speak with my wife her OM's divorce is imminent(currently in it's 6th year!). Until recently he was acting as his own attorney but has hired his own, to defend himself in a divorce suit filed by his wife. When I speak with his wife she says she hasn't really filed yet but may withdraw the papers. He tells my wife that they have a separation agreement - his wife says no. She says there is no response to her papers. She has been told I am violent, not true, Ihave been told that Mrs OM is crazy and stay away.<P>Well I want to get the skinny on the OM. Of all the people the only one I think is telling the truth is my wife. What are some good questions to help me sort out this mess?
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No one tells the whole truth. There are two sides to every story and probably a small bit of truth coming from each of you. I met my H OW, Both of them and know from experience there are always two sides and anyone can pick the bad and make it look worse. From experience it only made me feel worse to know the others. They are everything I am not. That Hurts!<BR>Good Luck<BR>Mater
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Assume everyone is lying. Each has their own agenda and is willing to lie to protect it.
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Hi Awoken,<P>Seems tonight I am full of advice. My rule for life is "I don't believe anything I hear, and half of what I see." In the ambulance industry there is a grapevine that loves to spread rumors.<P>I think we really want to believe our S and their side of the story. My friend I have had so much smoke blown up my petute I can not tell you.<P>If you are on a fact finding mission. I would rather rely on my instincts. Early on in discovery I called the OM and asked him about a check W gave him. Her bank sends copies of them and the silly guy paid his telephone bill and put his phone number on the memo line. BUSTED. W came up with a fantastic story. Well not that fantastic enough for a living individual to believe.<P>You might want to rethink your meeting.<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic, yeah I'm still here.
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I agree with Fighter....assume everyone is lying...
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Mater, fighter, Medic and no trust you are all right. They all have thier own agenda. I do know that my wife doesn't always tell the truth, but I suspect the OM, who I have met before and after discovery, is misleading her at best. I also know that OM's wife is bitter and scared. I am trying to discover OM is lying and present the information to my wife. I realise that I will probably have to sift through information from his W, but I have also decided to go to the court office and find out what if anything has been filed and go from there. <P>Thanks again for stating the obvious (to everyone except me), sometimes I feel like I am so naiive.
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She will have to figure that out on her own. Any proof ypu have will be ignored. Give it to her but don't expect a reaction.
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fighter is right here...<P>just like you don't trust anyone... and think everyone is lying...<BR>guess what... she will think you are lying too!<P>I've tried this strategy with my W's OM's W...<BR>It did me no good, except to look desparate to my W and OM...<P>It is at best a side step...<BR>It worst one step back.<P>Jim<BR>----------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...
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fighter, NSR thanks again I know you are both right - no-one can be trusted in this mess. I am going to the court today to find out for myself what has been filed by OM's wife and OM. I suspect that something is on record. The hard part will be if there is nothing.
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Awoken, if you do not find what you are looking for, do not try to dwell on it. There will be plenty of dissapointments in this process and if you keep looking for them, you will find them. For your own sanity, try to do something else for a while so that you do not get into the rut of obsessing over it. There are plenty of other things that need your full attention.....
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