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You replied to my question of how long I should wait and you response went straight to my heart. Thank you and the encouragement is wonderful. I'm not exactly sure how to implement Plan A since he won't separate from the OW. Although he has been acting as if there is some withdrawal. The problem is I know she contacts him often at work, and they may even see eachother during the day at times. He has told me he really loves her and wishes he could feel the same way about me as he does about her. There is nothing worse in the world my beloved H could have said to me. Nothing.<P>Thanks again, and God bless.
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Hurt Bad you're welcome. I wish I could tell you I had been successful with plan A, but others can perhaps share their successes. My wife has not seemed confused like your H. In some ways I have it easier since a confused spouse is just like when the affair started when you aren't sure what is really hapening.<P>If you haven't already, read Surviving an Affair by Steve Harley. It includes the information on this site and more on plans A and B. Plan A is essentially to confuse the betraying spouse with love without smothering and without lovebusting until he wakes up from the fantasy he is in. It's not an easy road but I believe it can be done with a lot of patience and tongue biting, as a lot of posters can attest. Good Luck!
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