Once again my kids are at the OW's house. I went to a picture album making party tonight to have something to do. So much for getting my mind off of it - one person brought her wedding pictures, and another talked about her upcoming anniversary. <P>And every picture I look at reminds me of him. For that matter everytime I look at my kids it reminds me of him. One of the many problems with betrayal is that it not only destroys the future but it destroys the past as well. For evermore, every memory I have of my adult life will be tainted. <P>I got home and found that my 7 year old had left a message saying goodnight - which would have been sweet, except that periodically throughout the message I could hear the OW coaching her on how to leave a message. The last thing I need to hear is the OW's voice.

I feel for you tonight!<P>My kids are at my W's tonight (for the weekend). The OM(sponge) lives there too... but... because I have a restraining order barring him from having any overnights with my kids, he'll have to leave tonight and tomorrow night... stays with his "mommy"! That is one <B>very</B> good thing about me having to have filed a counter-claim to my wife's divorce filing. I'm holding back on the divorce as much as possible.<P>I too know what it is like to have to hear the OP... it <I>sucks!</I> He almost always picks it up when I call... just to irritate me (they have caller ID)!<P>If you can put it into your mind that you are planning to save your marriage... and "dream" of the day your wayward spouse comes back... it won't be so hard to look at those pictures... It is the only way I can get through my pictures.<P>Jim<P>----------<P>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...<P>

That OW is a cunning runt. She's doing that to make herself look good. See, everyone, I am such a good person for helping this little child leave a love message for her mom. Ugh, Manipulative little Bytch.

Jim,<BR>I wish I could have some how kept them away from her, at least overnight, but in our state morality is irrelevant to visitation, unless it involves sexual abuse. If my H were living alone I would have no problem with overnight visitation. When he first left, I suggested that we take turns staying here with the kids, but he turned it down, undoubtedly because he wouldn't have been able to be with his OW.<BR>fighter,<BR>Thanks - I needed to read that interpretation. My H actually told our oldest daughter (who has never met the OW) that she wasn't an evil person, she was really nice to the kids - she didn't buy that. At one point my H has accused me of being manipulative, and I suspect that the OW put that thought in his head.