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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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yes it is HER business not mine therefore I'm not getting in the middle of it.
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Okay, if you really told him, then what was his reaction? Didn't he ask questions? Didn't he want to know who the OM was? What happened when you told him? How have things been going since he found out?
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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DS: 30, 27, 25
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BH and I are raising my OC together.
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I don't believe she told her husband anything. It is a lie.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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yes it is HER business not mine therefore I'm not getting in the middle of it. Didn't you kind of already get in the middle of her M when you took off your pants and spread your legs for her H? Gee, the fog is so thick in this thread I can't even see my own hand in front of my face.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
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BH and I are raising my OC together.
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I don't believe she told her husband anything. It is a lie. Obviously.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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DS: 30, 27, 25
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At htis point im done with confesing i told him i was unfaithful, that is enopugh for him to know if he wants to leave me or not, its his choice.
Unrepeantant...seriously?
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yes it is HER business not mine therefore I'm not getting in the middle of it. You ARE in the middle of it. You did her husband in her house. You are the OW.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It was when reading this particular Q and A column. that the penny dropped for me - it was soooo true. And that is why I then forced myself to follow through with these things. Have you read it? Taking the steps set out here and recognising how you got there will help you protect your M in the future.
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At htis point im done with confesing i told him i was unfaithful, that is enopugh for him to know if he wants to leave me or not, its his choice.
Unrepeantant...seriously? Lying is not repentance. Lying is not "enough" for anyone. Except a liar.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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yes it is HER business not mine therefore I'm not getting in the middle of it. Didn't you kind of already get in the middle of her M when you took off your pants and spread your legs for her H? Gee, the fog is so thick in this thread I can't even see my own hand in front of my face. I mant hardley see my screen anymore........... Nesre
M 29 yrs
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Me 53 FWH FBS
MTA signed 5/11/2011
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Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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lokil, the OW board is here ---------------> gloryb.com. This board is for marital recovery, not for unrepentant, shameless OW.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Okay, if you really told him, then what was his reaction? Didn't he ask questions? Didn't he want to know who the OM was? What happened when you told him? How have things been going since he found out? He asked i told him it was with someone else an ex of mine who i dont plan to see ever again... So i lied... i expected him to say it was over, i was already ruining one marriege didnt feel the need to ruin 2. He is hurt, he knows his job was hard on me, he is now with his family and we are taking a week apart so he can think straight, for the most part he said he wants us to work through it.
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First it will ruin my job you knwo that thing you do where you get money to be able to buy food, second its not anyone elses business who do i have sex with, and third I will leave him if he does. Why would it be wrong for you and your relationship? I'd really appreciate hearing that explanation.
Mrs. W So it would be bad for you to have to bear any of the natural consequences of your behavior? REALLY? lolkil, does that sound reasonable or mature to you at all? Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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He asked i told him it was with someone else an ex of mine who i dont plan to see ever again... So i lied Like I said, an unrepentant liar. An OW. We can't help you, lokil. The board for you is the OW board over on TOW on gloryb.com
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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its not anyone elses business who do i have sex with, and third I will leave him if he does. Subject: Re: lokil, call a profesh
lokil, the OW board is here ---------------> gloryb.com. This board is for marital recovery, not for unrepentant, shameless OW. OUTTA HERE Come back when you really want to talk Nesre
M 29 yrs
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Me 53 FWH FBS
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Okay, if you really told him, then what was his reaction? Didn't he ask questions? Didn't he want to know who the OM was? What happened when you told him? How have things been going since he found out? He asked i told him it was with someone else an ex of mine who i dont plan to see ever again... So i lied... i expected him to say it was over, i was already ruining one marriege didnt feel the need to ruin 2. He is hurt, he knows his job was hard on me, he is now with his family and we are taking a week apart so he can think straight, for the most part he said he wants us to work through it. So you think your M has any hope of recovering as long as you're lying to him and continuing to expose him to this "friendship" with the OM and his wife? Oh man, that's classic. For your H's sake, I hope he sees right through you and stays as far away from you as possible.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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DS: 30, 27, 25
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He has the facts he needs to know to mnake a desicion me and my firends are ok now it will never happen again, and we are starting therapy next week.
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He has the facts he needs to know to mnake a desicion me and my firends are ok now it will never happen again, and we are starting therapy next week. He doesn't have nearly enough information. He doesn't know that the OM is someone that both he and you are going to be seeing on a regular basis. He doesn't know you're lying to him. Okay, that's it. I'm gone. I have way better things to spend my time on than someone who is this clueless.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
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Friends - haven't you heard you can't educate a wayward?
She's as wayward as it gets.
She has a secret.
Her neighbor is still accessible.
She vows it will never happen again.
She will have the marriage she has earned and deserves.
Leave her to her self-destructive fate.
I just hope her husband finds his way here anyway.
Then he can make a decision knowing the OM is next door, not in her past as she lied to him and said.
That is all we can hope for.
She's a lost cause.
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