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Gave her the letter. DD14 was with her, since DD14 wanted to spend the night at WW's house. So, I asked WW to read it in private when she got home.
I'm likely to get my first trial tonight since, as she was getting in the truck with DD14, she said, "I'm planning on going grocery shopping and thought I might come by and talk with you." With the locks changed & the garage door code changed, she won't be getting into the house unless I let her.
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Good job! Are you prepared if she tries to get through to you?
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Again I would like to applaud you.
You're doing immediately what most BHs don't do for months, if at all.
EDIT: T/J. Woohoo! My 1000th post!
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You are doing it the tried and proven way. Congratulations.
Now, it is that an appreciable percentage of people out there have either had and affair or been the victim of one. Most have ridden the emotional roller coaster as opposed to the entitlement variety.
SO, a fair number of those you email are going to know EXACTLY how you feel and are going to be sympathetic. They may not say anything, but they will feel for you. If some of them know anything that would be helpful to you, they will contact you if you provide a way.
You may find out more about the players than you now know.
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I believe so. It'll be a lot easier this time since a) I'm in the house and she can't get in and b) the kids aren't here.
I think I know why WW said she wanted to talk. Apparently OM's DD19 and my DD18 talked today and shared that they both knew their parents were having an affair. Then my DD18 called WW.
So far, it looks like she's not coming. eBlaster shows that she's been reading her emails for the past 30 minutes, so I'm guessing she got some private time and read the letter.
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gnirlos, I forget, do you have an IM set up for anything, or won't you need one?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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[venting] How am I supposed to get thru all 300 FB friends, if FB keeps accusing me of naughty behavior? [/vent]
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I just received an email from OM, in response to my exposure email to the Black and Brown Belts of the association: you have to be joking see you in prison
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Laugh it off.
It's only slander when it's a lie.
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I just received an email from OM, in response to my exposure email to the Black and Brown Belts of the association: you have to be joking see you in prison HAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahahahahahaha!!!  You gotta love it. You've really made him squirm. And on what does he base this "threat?" Because there is NOTHING on which you could be charged with, much less sent to prison for. The guy may be good with his hands and his feet but he's pretty poor with his head.
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Improperly accessing an email account that was not my own?
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Improperly accessing an email account that was not my own? Who's account did you "improperly access"? I agree - laugh it off. Ignore it. Do you think the OM really wants to bring MORE exposure to his A by trying to sic the law on you? And if he does, it's easily something you can use to your advantage and make him look like a fool in the process.
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OK, so if he says see you in prison, does that mean you will be visiting him?
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If it's slander, what proof can he bring that the A is NOT happening? That would be interesting...
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Now that it's later in the day, I'm getting worried about this afternoon and evening's plans. Prior to my handing her the Plan B Letter and setting off the nuclear exposure, she and I had worked out that I would pick up DS15 after school and take him to the first day of his driving school (the driving school picks up at the highschool every day except the first day). DD14 had also expressed her desire to stay with me this week.
I'm still planning on going to pick him up. WW is supposedly teaching her karate class, which is far enough away to not be able to pick him up in time. How do I handle a) her showing up or b) her sending someone else?
What about DD14 and tonight/this week, if WW says "no" to DD14?
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Keep a journal of any interactions from now on, when the kids spend time with you, when they spend time with her, when she says "no", all the times you pick up or drop off. This will be important later if custody becomes an issue.
Just keep doing what is best for the family. As far as strategy, you will live your life the best way for your family. Try not to strategize everything, do what you think is best for the family...not what will or will not make the A go away. After exposure, Plan A and Plan B, there is nothing else you can do about the A except let it implode on it's own...
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I just received an email from OM, in response to my exposure email to the Black and Brown Belts of the association: you have to be joking see you in prison you have my permission to use my favorite smiley! ![[Linked Image from i239.photobucket.com]](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff195/smshaw_photo/happy%20bunny/usmelllikebutt.jpg)
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So, all of my worry was for naught. I picked up DS15 and took him to his class, did some shopping for him and DD14 is now in the house.
...and I did it all without talking with or seeing WW...who never got out of her truck...
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So, all of my worry was for naught. I picked up DS15 and took him to his class, did some shopping for him and DD14 is now in the house.
...and I did it all without talking with or seeing WW...who never got out of her truck... Time and time again I find this to be true. When I think something HUGE is going to happen NOTHING does. Doesn't it feel GRAND? Keep up the good work t/j I love that SMILEY MELODY end t/j
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You are doing great, gnirlos!  Thanks scotland, he cracks me up every time I look at him. 
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