Does this sound suspicious? Or, is my imagination running wild?

I tried to go into our joint cell phone account the other day and the password had been changed. That night, I asked my husband if he had changed the password--he said no. We usually pay it online but still get a hard copy in the mail. We received no hard copy in the mail this month.

I went in and reset the password and got in to look at the bill. There are many calls to a number in another state--some that lasted for 90 minutes or more...and about 180 text messages to and from this number. I have no idea whose number this is and tried to look it up on reverse lookup--said it was a cell # and was unpublished.

My husband never text messages me. Some of the calls were at very odd times like late in the evening hours, etc.

So, is this really suspicious? Any suggestions on how to proceed?

Call the number from the joint cell phone and see who answers !

Yep....smells of the cpappy kind

Yes, changed passwords and lots of messages and calls...been there. That's what my H did. He changed the password on his phone. That gave it away...
blessing

Something stinks and it is not the fish...

Google the phone #. Sometimes it will pop up if it used in a business or whatever.

Call from your cell phone and use *67 and then the cell phone #. Then it will show as a private call. If she does not pick up hopefully it will go to a voice mail with a name.

Keep us posted.

Texting on cell phones seems to me at least, the number one way waywards communicate with one another.

It's convenient, and near real-time, as both waywards can respond when time and circumstance allow. No computer is necessary.

I dislike cell phones, as I abhor the idea that I can/should be available 24 hours a day. WW used to say she wanted to be available should her kids call. But when her A began, she started clinging to her phone as if her life depended on it.

Even to this day (I think -- I stopped checking weeks ago) she communicates with OM more via texting than any other way.

Now, if only there were a way to enlarge this symbol



into 26-point typeface...

I've used ussearch.com to look up suspicious cell phone numbers. There's a small fee, but it's been worth it....

I Googled the number and the only thing I get are fee based services. I don't really want to have to pay to get the owners name but I guess I will if I have to. I may call the number later. I want to see if my husband says anything about the password being changed. I tried to log back in using the password I had created but now I can't get back in. It probably emailed him that the password had been changed... I am going to wait to see if he mentions the password being changed or being notified of anything like that.

But, I agree. It is a huge red flag.

YOu could always call from a blocked number - *67 and then the number. Try it on your house phone to see if it's withheld and then see if it's a woman who answers.

Post the number here and have one of us call it. Then edit it out after we've called.

Cell phones and text messaging is the devil. It is definitely my WW preferred method of comunicating to the OM and how I discovered it in the first place.

The sight of the damn thing makes me cringe. The stupid beep it makes everytime a message comes in. The guarding and hiding the cell phone day and night. One of these times I'm just going to crush it with a ball peen hammer.

Pay for the reverse cell phone lookup. It's only a couple of well-spent bucks.

ACK Dawn! I'm sorry to hear this - it worries me for sure...I'm home sick today, so if you need me I'm around...

Mrs. W

did you print the details before you lost access?? (hope so...)

ITA. Anything you see, anything, make copies. Also, start a journal, recording where he says he's going, how long he's there, what you're doing at the time.

Yes, I printed the bill out before I lost access. I've also seen his bank statements. We have always had seperate bank accounts and I've noticed that he has withdrawn over 3K in cash withdrawals since December.

We have a unique situation and I know it's not a good one. He works in one state, I live in one state and this phone # is in yet another state.

He has talked alot lately about selling our house this summer. I just started a new job myself and I don't like it very much and the pay is not that great. He makes mega money though. So, I am getting very worried about what he is planning. But, I know he is up to something.

I am the FWW with an A that ended over 1.5 years ago so, I'm sort of wondering if he is pulling a "Dude" (RA) although it would be tough with him in one state and someone else in another. He works too many hours 6 days a week.

Why do you assume the someone else is in another state? With the portability of phone numbers and the prevelance of cell phones these days you have no idea where somebody actually lives based on an area code any more.

Heh, that's basically what I did with my WW's cell phone, when I found out she was using to talk to OM via Facebook/Text Messaging/AIM, etc. She was none too happy about it her phone being in pieces.....

Cell phone and mega-texting was the way my then-WW carried on her A with Pond Scum. After D-day, she went out and got a pre-paid phone -- then re-upped using her debit card. I caught it on the bank statement.

I destroyed the pre-paid phone using a hammer, a scr3wdriver, and then drowning the damned thing in dishwater.

It was rather cathartic. It didn't completely kill off contact, but it sure made me feel better. And it gave me a chance to do something that made my point rather....emphatically.

Dawn:

Well heck. For sure. . .


Harley doesn't like your living situation.

You need to be in a position to protect your territory, so to speak.

Larry

Larry--You're not telling me anything that I don't already know. I don't like the living situation either but it's temporary. H has to go to where the work is. I was there last year for about 8 months and it was so remote, I hated it. H says that he works 12 hr/day 6 day/wk. So, that shouldn't leave room for much of anything else.
But, as I said--it is not a good situation--I completely agree.

H said last night that he got text messages from the cell phone co. yesterday that someone was messing with the account and he told them to just disable it altogether.

I still haven't checked on the # but I will today.