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Are there any other cell phone methods other than Flexispy that can be recommended?
H rides a motorcycle and borrows the car occasionally but he always has his phone with him.
-=Phoenix
-= Phoenix
I am BW-25
WH-27
Married since 7/07
A from 1/09-7/09
"One can't complain. I have my friends. Someone spoke to me only yesterday."-Eeyore
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I've wondered about the trust thing too. I don't think I'll ever totally trust my husband again. Slowly I'm allowing certaing things. Like know he can actually got into another room (business room) without me following hime in there and sitting in there while he's there. It'll be a while before I can trust him outside of the house alone. In June he has a business trip for a week, I pray things are better by then or else, the money that we've spent on the trip will go to waste. I want to trust him, but it's so hard. Things are better I admit, but I'm always wondering "what if". He know's he has made his bed and now he has to lay in it.
"Never get in a bed if your name isn't written on it"
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Trust DOES come back eventually. Trust that you will enforce your own personal boundaries if you are betrayed again. Trust that you are not and were never the cause of your WS' actions. Trust that you do not NEED to be married bad enough to stay married to a cheater. Trust that you will be just fine if it were to happen again. Trust in the MB proven principles. And as they say in AA-- It only works if you work it!
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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You hit the nail on the head for me 'princessmeggy'....thats exactly where I am getting to, (trying to get to). Trust in ME, myself....as I said above, my lack of boundaries enabled the A's to start and continue. I started to develop boundaries when she was on vacation just post Dday, then she came back and I allowed them to weaken on various fronts.
I am re-installing them and I found IC helped me a lot, so I've made an appt to see the same therapist who helped me out so much after Dday.
That said, my wife has her own issues as to why she did what she did, etc. Those issues she has to deal with on her own.
Hopefully we both will be together when/if we get 'it' fixed.
"Phoen1x' and '26years', I feel the same as you guys.
Last edited by codtej; 02/23/10 05:47 PM.
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