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We don't have any children, neither does the OM.
We been married just over a year. Young M, no children. My advice to you would be to walk away from this mess as quickly as possible. If you think this is difficult to handle now, just imagine what it would be like if you'd invested several years of M together and there were children involved. You WW has basically walked away after only one year of M. Her actions show that she is not someone you want to be be permanently involved with. Do not waste any more of your life on her - you don't get those years back.
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I agree with MiM.
Your wife reminds me of my ex. She "started" cheating 7 months into our marriage. I fought for the marriage and ended the affair, but then she had another one 1 year later. After I threw her out, I found out that cheating had really been a way of life for her since before we had started dating. Some people just have no concept of commitment. They are like reeds, blowing in the wind, and just go where their feelings take them.
My advice to you would be to walk away as fast as you can. I know you feel like you love this woman, but trust us here that it will pass. Count yourself lucky for learning the true nature of this woman with a minimal investment of time. You are young and there are plenty of women out there who can keep their vows for longer than 6 months.
ex-WW had 2 PAs in first 2 years. Buh-bye.
Divorce finalized: 1/28/09
Now just living and loving again.
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Yes, ideally it would be good to cut your loses and move on. However, you still feel for her. YOu are only 28 and you can spare another 6 months.
Wait and see what happens in the next 6 months, if she does not contact you or if she does but does not want to work on the M according to the MB principles then you know she is a serial cheater or a person who is not M material and that will continue to make you suffer in the years to come.
But give it 6 more months, so you do not fall prey of yet another woman like your wife who might very well be another cheater.
We often attract the same people if you are not fully over a relationship.
blessing
atena
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