I'm also concerned about the amount of cash H has been withdrawing from the checking account. This is highly unusual for him.

Could also mean he's gambling heavily and has a bookie. Either way, not good for your marriage and you need to find out. Call tht number!

Dawn, you know how much energy someone has who is fooling around.

Have you asked him about the money?

Larry

No, not yet. He does like to gamble and there is a casino within about a half hour's drive. But, I don't think he would go on a weeknight after working long hours.
I just did the us search thing. At first, it said the info was available then after I paid for it (charged me $9.90) it came back and said it was not immediately available and a report would be sent to me within 48 hours. At the beginning, it said it would be $4.95 but after entering my payment info it was $9.90. And, I still didn't get anything for it.

Do you have threads on here from that time?
Does your husband?

I would like to learn more about your situation.

But, as a B.S., I can tell you that at least two key reasons not to have an affair is no longer there.

1. Not wanting to hurt my wife in a way that she could/would never hurt me, and destroying her trust in me where it will never come back.

2. Not wanting to break my vows to her, to God, and to both our family's.

It will take a recovered marriage and EP's to keep me from ever having an affair. I know this, and because of it I make sure to implement those EP's to avoid getting in a position where it could happen.

Your husbands work situation is making a precarious situation, downright unstable.

If I told you I was BatMan, would you believe me?



Call the number, from the phone your husband calls it on.

Still,

Have you tried what a couple of people have suggested with the *67 and dial the number?

Alternatively, you could just dial it direct and see who answers the phone.

As one who has gone through multiple d-days, I have heard the same "excuses" on the calls/text messages. I hate to tell you, but this is most likely an A. Don't ignore it or let him "explain" it. As a FWW, you should already be aware that WS's lie, that's what they do, they want their cake and eat it too.

Call the number yet?

No, I haven't called the number yet. I was waiting on the results of my ussearch reverse phone search. I got it today but the only thing it said was "Debbie" and "TX" and had a little map. What a waste that was.

I want to call it but, I'm sort of afraid to.

And, Gack, I know that he worked these hours/days last year when I was there. I know it is possible--not defending him but, just saying it's not unheard of.

Does anyONE want to call the # for me? If not, I will muster up the courage to do it.

I'm happy to do it. I have a block on my home phone number. Send it to ourhouse53@gmail.com

Ok. I couldn't stand the suspense. I did the *67 and the number...a Female answered. I just asked for a ficticious person and she said "you have the wrong number", I said I'm sorry and hung up.

And you did a reverse white pages search on the number and it is a cell? Did you put the number into Google?

Yes, I did those things. I Googled the number before doing the ussearch thing. It only comes up with a bunch of search sites for searching the number. I've searched it every way I can think of.
So, now that a female is answering this number how should I proceed? I haven't mentioned anything about it to my H yet. Should I just keep snooping a while to try to get more info?

Just did the white pages reverse lookup. Says it is a cell # and the # is unavailable.

You know her first name from the search, right?

Here's sort of an evil thought. Have someone else call her number and act as though they are a girlfriend of your H. I.E.

"My name is Jane Doe and I'm calling because I found your number in X's car. I want to know what's going on."

or...

Did you know he's married?

etc.

heehee

What kind of info is on the map? I mean, can you see which town? Which street?


Can you get someone to call the number and ask "This is a weird question but is this Debbie Faulkner?" and of course she won't be and then they can ask "Well was Faulkner you maiden name or something? I have a very ill relative that was great friends with Debbie Faulkner and I thought you might be her."

She *might* volunteer her last name by saying "No, this is Debbie Skankhola, why?"

I would never volunteer my last name, but folks do stupid things. It's worth a try anyway.

I've tried this, and the map that comes up doesn't show specific locations, just the basic cell phone area that the phone # is in. Unfortunately.

I'd definitely try the 'Debbie Faulkner' thing - you might score and get a last name.

I had the same results using ReversePhoneDetective and Intelius. Just a first name and that it was a cell phone. Ten bucks.

But in my case, it was all I needed, as I was able to connect the first name to her "friends" on Facebook. There was only one "friend" with the same (very common) first name. Since I knew the guy, it made sense to me, and when I told her I knew who OM was, she simply admitted it.

When she asked how I found out, I used my stock-in-trade answer (which I recommend for any WS, as it seems to end the conversation without leading to revealing sourcse): "I only look stupid."

Another good stock in trade answer is: "You'd be surprised who knows what, and who talks."

The map didn't give much detail. I know the name of the city in TX--got that from the phone bill. But, no, the map doesn't show much detail at all.

I thought about just calling and asking her to whom was I speaking? And, then tell her that I found her number on my husbands' phone bill for outrageously long phone calls and tons of text messages and just asking her how she knows my husband?

I haven't mentioned anything to him yet about the phone bill. I did ask him about the money though and he gave me some stupid excuse that he was taking the money out to "save" but, it doesn't make sense why he would be "saving" money while he is out of the state.

Should I just be quiet for now and keep watching or should I start asking questions? And, making phone calls?

I can't imagine that anyone would be stupid enough to volunteer their last name for a random caller.

How are you managing to sit on this so long without calling the number?

Just call the number or have one of your friends call the number for you. Go with Turtle's idea and pretend you are looking for Debbie Whatever and see if you can trick her into saying what her name is.

Does your husband have a Facebook account? Can you see if he has any 'friends' with the name Debbie on his friends list?