Yea, Tasha is her real name, I excluded my husband and my name for privacy but Ill expose her to you guys. Search Facebook for **edit**.

You need to remove her name as quickly as possible. Lurkers from the dark side will clue her in. Edit it right now.


Okay, Revera already did it.

Be careful how much personal information you let out here.

He says he wants to work on our marriage, he doesnt want to leave me and he doesnt know what he is thinking because he loves me very much.

He feels confused because he has feelings for us both, cant stand the thought of losing either one of us, but knows that it is impossible.

He said he is going to distance himself and come home tonight.

I am still in the process of exposing to all the people I can. I called his father and brother, I am closer to his brother and he is furious. His father is so unemotional so I dont know what he is thinking. He did call my husbands brother to let him know and he asked me to call him and let him know how things went today after he left.

Sadly, he has already texted her since leaving the house. I am hoping she will do the right thing now that she knows the truth, but I dont know what to expect anymore. I do trust that he doesnt want to leave me and I guess he is hoping to ride out this affair as long as he can.

Follow the plan here, KK. It's your best bet. Don't waste too much time trying to convince OW to have a conscience. It's clear she has none. Work on your husband instead. Plan A, Plan A, plan A...until if/when it's time to go Plan B.

KK, you are correct. The plan is to ride the affair out as long as they can, which will drive you insane. The solution is to kill it off while you have it on the ropes by doing a nuclear exposure. Do the most powerful, impactful exposure you can TODAY so you can deal the most severe blow to the affair. Your H will be furious, so you might as well get your moneys worth and get it all done and out of the way. That way you can start rebuilding your marriage.

Please finish your exposures NOW. Expose her on facebook, speak to her parents. Expose to all your close family and friends. The more people who know, the less likely it will resume.

Your exposure will turn the OW into a PARIAH over night. That will be a deterrent for her to resume her affair with your H. You will SCARE HER OFF in addition to teaching her a much needed lesson.

And every time she tries to contact your H, I would go visit her and make her life a living hell. Just leave your pistol in the car when you do.

(((KK)))

I just read your thread and you are getting great advice. Follow the plan and stay strong.

OMG ... there is a plan afoot !

Pep, just so you know, that isn't anything south of Houston except the Dickinson speed trap, the San Jaciento Monument and what is left of Galveston. Oh, and lots of sand, scrub grass, and the Gulf of Mexico. Clear Lake and the Johnson Space Center is more east than south and Sugarland doesn't count since it was taken off the map after Ronnie Earle took Tom DeLay down. All inside Texas stuff. . .

Larry

Oh my, the town name got [censored].



Dic*inson. . .

Larry, OMG, that is so so funny - before I read the rest of your post, I was trying to figure out which city had a name that could be censored! Best I could come up with was Stinkadina! (I am on the North side, 1960 area).

Edit it. We don't need to see it, and others might see it and know your MB name to use against you.

Hey now!! Melodylane is south o' Houston!!

KK you are doing such an awesome job!

Your H will be furious and talk all kinds of trash. Just be prepared so you don't react to it too strongly. He will calm down in a few days. Just hunker down and ride it out.

Stay calm and cool. If he talks separation or divorce, just change the subject to something pleasant, light, and inconsequential.

Try not to respond at all to his vitriol, it WILL pass. If he corners you with a question like "How could you do this?" just look him dead in the eye and say "I will do whatever I have to in order to save this marriage." then change the subject.

Two things:

Don't pay any attention to what he SAYS, only to what he DOES. He is deep in affair-land at the moment.

Don't focus so much on him, what he's doing, what his reactions are, what his goals are, etc. Plan A is about you learning to meet his ENs, you learning to avoid LBs, and you exposing. Just keep your eye on what YOU are supposed to be doing and let him flounder for a few weeks.

You absolutely cannot judge your success by his behavior. Just keep your goal (Plan A) in sight and stay focused on how well you can do it. Don't worry about him right now.

We have been texting back and forth about our marriage and how excited we are about our baby and coming up with a name. Before I left the house at 3pm he hadnt texted or called her since the one time when he left around Noon.

I saw him at our business around 4:30.

While driving home I noticed his car wasnt at our business anymore. I asked him Where he was and he said he had to go to the store to get some meds because his stomach was bothering him. I told him he should come home and take a hot shower and I would give him a massage. He said he would head this way soon.

I just got back and noticed that they have been texting back and forth all afternoon. 36 texts back and forth from 3-4:30.

He knows I can check if they HAVE been texting, but they are obviously not emailing anymore because I can see what they are saying.

I guess I just need to stick to Plan A and I hope he comes home.

KK,

OR he has set up a new email just for the affair. By the time H's affair was done there had been 5 different addy's used, so be prepared.

Did you send that email out to her facebook?

Not2fun

So, its ok that he continues his affair as long as he comes home?

No not all, I meant to come home for good tonight.