Now that I'm caught up on everyone else's thread since I was last on, I can post on mine...

Let's see...

Plan B - During the session with Jennifer, she and I decided to modify it to a "Plan B except for dealing with kid issues". Something comes up every two or three days and we have a 2 or 3 back-and-forth text message discussion. Nothing verbal and nothing other than the facts about the issue. I did lower my guard a couple of weeks ago and went to a memorial service for one of her cousins. That weekend ended with me resolving to stay dark and walking the 3.5 miles home from her house after dropping off the kids and truck.

Exposure - I've continued exposing to people outside of the "intimate circle" (other family members and friends). All of them have been supportive and can't believe that WW has lost her ever loving mind.

Health - I'm back to sleeping regularly and my weight has stabilized. I lost 15 pounds...so, the total from when all of this started two years ago is 50 pounds...I'm happy with that...I'm annoyed that now I have to get clothes that fit...and finances are tight...

Kids - DS15 and DD14 do not know that WW has filed. I'm still working out how to tell them. On the other hand, I have it on good authority that DD18 does know. In the meantime, DS15 has more-or-less put karate on hold as he and DD14 have decided to focus on competitive cheerleading. Right now they are going through try-outs, which is 5 days a week of 1-2 hours of tumbling and stunts...and will last 8 weeks total (2 of which are now done)...they just spent Wednesday thru this afternoon in my care. I had mentioned on Monday to WW that, while February had been equitable in regards to the kids visiting, March had been less than fair...so, she offered W-Su...and then I found out on W, that she'd already filed...

Reading, but not posting - WW knows about the MB site, but I do not know if she knows about the discussion forum. Some things have occurred that, in case she (or her more technically-savvy friends) do find the forum, I don't want to tip my hand on certain details of which I am aware, but she does not know that I know. Plus, I've found that Google indexes the threads and some of the info could lead to WW or friends finding it.

I see you reading. I mentioned it in my posting thread. Way to go! At least you can come out of all this with a whole toolbox full of emotional tools, more than most people, for sure.


I hope you have someone you can trust you can confide in.

Larry

I remember reading (at least) once a post that listed some of the standard things that waywards say, such as "We got married too young." and "We have nothing in common." but I can't seem to find it now.

I looked at the Inside the Wayward Mind thread, but didn't see these two quotes in particular, so it must have been somewhere else...and these two quotes are key for me.

Anyone know/have it bookmarked? Or did I just dream it...

Here is a really old one - 1999

1999

There are others.

Larry