This is quite a thread!

I agree that Italy's wife needs to come here to talk to the females who have rediscovered overwhelming desire and attraction to their spouses.

Larry, good posts, but I have to say I always chafe when one gender is put in a box to explain how they respond in a certain situation.

I can remember looking for a "good catch" as a young woman, but never, ever did I want a man who treated me badly. That does nothing for me and in reality, my DH treating me badly by having an affair was the one time I thought about ending our long relationship. Yes, I want a strong, confident man, but also someone who can put me first in all situations.

Mel is so right in saying that feelings follow actions. Italy, you and your DW have to both want complete healing of your relationship and both be willing to work hard at it to truly recover. If you tell her you need SF as an EN and she can't comply, then maybe she doesn't understand this whole MB thing. Or has your communication with her not been that clear? If she truly desires recovery of your marriage, she is going to try to fill your love bank by meeting your ENs. It's that simple.

And women don't communicate subtly at all. We actually say what's on our minds.

As the women come out of the woodwork in more numbers, I hope Italy is getting it that he needs to get wife involved in a discussion with women who know a lot, like you, for example.

Larry

Hey all, hope you had a great weekend, I talked to my wife last night about how great of a tool this site has been for me to ask questions and get info on what is going on in our life from people that have been there. She has an account on here now and it is MrsLvninitaly. I told her about the great people on here with special attention to Mel and Mrs Wondering. I hope she gets in touch with you. Thank for all your help.

Super! Tell her that I'll be on the look out for her!

Mrs. W

MrsWondering, just a quick update. I believe that my wife has the intentions of getting on MB and talking with you and others, but last sunday we went snowboarding and she broke her wrist so she has not been on the internet very much since then due to the pain. When she was on there she was only trying to finish up her online class for the week. Hopefully when she is feeling better in the next few days she will get on here and talk to all of you.

Quick word to the wise, don't break a bone in Italy, they are not like american doctors, they don't believe in pain reliever or local anesthetic. They reset her bone without both of those things. It was so hard to hear her yelling from the pain. It is one of those things you never want to see your spouse go through no matter what. I hope you are all having a great week. Lvninitaly

Ok, I have to jump in on this and hopefully make a worthwhile contribution. . . .

The MC that Mrs. Linus and I are seeing believes very strongly in what Mel is saying - there can be tremendous passion in a marriage no matter how long you've been married. At one of our first sessions, he recommended the book 'Passionate Marriage' by David Schnarch. The author, and our MC, firmly believe in keeping love and intimacy alive in all committed relationships.
(Dr. Schnarch's latest book, "Intimacy and Desire", was recommended to me on another thread by righttherewaiting).

So I guess my answer to the question in the title of the thread is a resounding YES. I don't know all the details of the chemistry behind it, but I do know that I want what Mel and Mr. Mel have in their relationship (hot stuff Mel!)