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WW sent NC letter to IM's for my approval. I picked it up from IM's last night.
Just wondering if it should go out "as is" or do I write a short note on it so POS understands this is a joint effort. I don't want to challenge POS or make it a game but I also want POS to know "WE" are in this together and HE is not welcome.
ANY ideas on what to write or do I let it go as is??
This is the 3rd time (since mid january) she has written and let me read but the first time actually giving me the letter to send. I know it could be stronger or more elaborate but honestly I am not sure the POSOM has the IQ or honesty to even understand or acknowledge this much. When this board talks about spouses usually A'ing down THIS is a true example
Snakesheet in a wagon wheel track, (Couldn't think of anything lower)
I will not have any kind of contact with you again. My affair with you was wrong and it really hurt DD16 and Nesre.
I am going to try to repair the damage and hurt I have caused them.
I am going to focus on being a good mom and wife.
I am going to try to fix all the wrongs I have done to them and hopefully work things out and move forward together.
WW
M 29 yrs
DS 28 DD 18
Me 53 FWH FBS
MTA signed 5/11/2011
D final 5/16/2011
Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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SH told us to just use the letter as it was written exactly in the book. He said the letter was to be void of emotion and using a standard template made sure of that.
IMO there's no need to add anything in it from you. We sent it by email (SH ok'd this for our situation) and sent it from a joint account.
Married 9 yrs.
DC 7 & 2
DH EA 4/08-01/10
Dday #1 05/08
False recovery b4 I knew about MB 07/08
Dday #2 01/10
NC 01/10
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I used one from a blog as a template found here. I thought it was pretty good. Might be from the book I don't know. No Contact Letter
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WW sent NC letter to IM's for my approval. I picked it up from IM's last night.
Just wondering if it should go out "as is" or do I write a short note on it so POS understands this is a joint effort. I don't want to challenge POS or make it a game but I also want POS to know "WE" are in this together and HE is not welcome.
ANY ideas on what to write or do I let it go as is??
This is the 3rd time (since mid january) she has written and let me read but the first time actually giving me the letter to send. I know it could be stronger or more elaborate but honestly I am not sure the POSOM has the IQ or honesty to even understand or acknowledge this much. When this board talks about spouses usually A'ing down THIS is a true example
Snakesheet in a wagon wheel track, (Couldn't think of anything lower)
I will not have any kind of contact with you again. My affair with you was wrong and it really hurt DD16 and Nesre.
I am going to try to repair the damage and hurt I have caused them.
I am going to focus on being a good mom and wife.
I am going to try to fix all the wrongs I have done to them and hopefully work things out and move forward together.
WW It's too...short. Almost to where I get the feeling she doesn't want to say anything. If I got a letter like that I would wonder if the person who wrote it was forced to. Use the template on here. Don't throw your own comments in, no matter how much you want to. He is NOT worth your time! Don't let him think he's so important that you would so much as spit in his general direction.
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Link to NC Letter thread in the Notable Posts forum. It includes the sample letter from the book.
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