my husband (ED) doesn't come home on time for 6-8 weeks, because his meetings.
3 weeks ago, he went to a concert with some co-workers, and leave me home with our 4 and 7 year-old.
I asked him a week later, he said nothing but he likes this girl a lot, and she makes his heart beating faster. I asked him to stay away and he refused because he could have a great friendship with her.
Two days later, he took of his ring, and telling me he thinks their feeling are mutual.
I noticed they start to text each other for 6 weeks. I called her to check (because I can not get Ed to answer the phone) and she said those are for meetings. But there is one from her saying she wish she can hang out with him. ( he said she sent that out to two people because he and john were together.

Last Friday, he was out again with co-workers and stopped by one of co-workers home for a littlet party after work. He said evryone goes there on friday night. He has been stopping there for past month. I asked the detail, and he lied, nothing special. The 2nd day, he admited he talks to her for 4 hours and did not know time past so fast.
Monday he wrote to me to let m know if she asked him to hold her hand , he would.
Last night,he didn't come home on time again, and won't answer his phone, he said he was alone.
This morning he told me that he was walking with her and tell her that he likes her. He said their hands were in their own pocket. He also told her he know this is wrong. (she is married , too. -no kids)

I am very upset because he has to work with her alone for two semesters. and he will not agree not to see her after work. I also upset because that WE loved to walk together, but not after we have kids.
He said she loves to walk and her husband doesn't.
I just can not get him home, he came home late and lied, so we are not communite at all. Every morning , he drop this kind of info and thn won't answer my calls.
He ask me to go out find fin someone I like to hang out wih so we both can be happy. ( I do not think I was unhappy)
What can I do? if I do not see him all day now.
He said he does not want to move out because our kids. But he is not home for his kids.
Shold I call her and talk to her? She spend time doing all the fun tings with Ed, she should invite her own husband.

I don't have time for more, but you need to expose to her husband. Do not tell your husband that you are going to tell her husband. Just do it.

Some more vets will be along shortly to help you.

Hi, sorry you are here, but you will be helped.
First of all. What is happening is not your fault. You did nothing to cause this and you were not unhappy so this is like a cold shower for you.
You H is having a lot of independed behaviour,and typical...like taking off his ring, saying he is unhappy, and most importantly seeing another woman (OW).
You need to find out who she is and expose the A (affair) because it is an A even if they did not have sex yet (which i think they did already...you do not spend 4 hours late at night just talking...)
Exposing the A means you tell all your family members, her family and husband.
This will give you a big opportunity to kill the A and recover (r) your marriage (M)
Can you do that? Do you want to R your M?
blessing

Mail:

He is having an affair, committing adultery, and you know it. At this point, it is all about him and his happiness. He is cake eating, which means he has his affair and he has you. He is destroying you and your kids. And you know it.

I am so sorry you have found yourself here.

Many will respond to your post with help and real concern. Most of us have been where you and your husband are, either as the betrayed or the one who betrays.

Your first step is to READ the basic concepts right NOW! Learning is your friend and your comfort.

So start learning. Remember, there is no reset button. There is no magic wand. There is no 15 second sound bit on Tv that will solve your problems or his, or more especially, your kid's upcoming problems because he has started this horrible journey to break everyone's heart so he can get what is called an "Affair fix." This is as in a drug fix. That is where he is.

If you have the ability and desire to learn what is here to be learned, you can act based on what you know instead of what you guess. Your journey starts now. It will not be easy. But it can be done as you will learn.

Larry

I can not find her husband's name and number.
They are in a big school district.
I wish I could. Should I ask his good friend john to see if he knows anything about that night if they were in their house?
He said they did nothing yet. but if she asked, he would.

Thank you all for the support!

John is your H friend, asking him is like asking you H for her number. Can you check you H cell phone? Or email?
blessing

I have her number but not her husbands.
according to Ed, there are many people in John's house that night.

Yes. there is a lot under that first link.

I have talked to his sister this morning. We have no family and relatives in this state. His sister will call him tonight, but she said she will not let him know I called and have a talk.
Or should his sister tell him that she knows?

no. I do not know his name at all.

I am getting a search report on her. It looks like she has 3 different last names by now.