My wife and I are separated and she has been seeing another man for about 2 months, and we have been separated for 6 months. My wife and I carried on our relationship like we were dating for the first 4 months of the separation and we were seemingly committed to one another, but the original marital problems still remained because neither of us had the skills to resolve our issues. Then when she met the other guy 2 months ago she would not see me anymore.

My wife and have been seeing each other for the last few weeks and things have been going pretty good until today when I emailed the OM. FYI..my wife will not commit to me she will stop seeing the OM. BTW...what is the best way to handle it when you are seperated and your wayward spouse says "she needs some space".

Even under these conditions for the last 2 months while she has been seeing this OM and would not see me at all, my wife has been obsessed with emailing me or calling me about something around 9PM or 10PM almost every night. I know the only reason she does it is to see if I am home or not. If I do not answer the phone or return her email that night, she gets extremely jealous and becomes very irrational and sends me emails like: "I know you were screwing someone last night".

I haven't seen anyone else at all since the day I met my wife 8 years ago. Sometimes I purposely won't answer the phone or return an email til the next day, just to keep her wondering.

So my question is does making your WS jealous produce anything productive when the WS is having an affair?

Tex, here's the deal: You married her as a cheater. She was a cheater, as well. Now she's cheating again. It's her MO. What you do will have little effect if you don't properly expose. We've already told you that.

You are living in fear - fear of her wrath (who gives a sh*t about how vindictive she is if you're trying to save your M??) STOP LIVING IN FEAR. That's your first goal. GO GET YOUR WIFE BACK!!! That's your second. Whining here will do you NO good! We've already told you what you need to do!! Grow a set, Texas! And stop already with the victim thing!


Don't play games. Go get your M back, man!

We tried the jealous game here (T2L). It ended up disasterous.

I tried to bluff my H (well I did not realize it was a bluff) and it bit me in the [censored].

expose, already. Let the chips fall. The way to end cake eating behavior is to remove the cake. (the opportunity to hav both)
GLTO

Tex,

Sure. In your case it would up the drama, and she would love it.

I would advise you go for it with another woman, why not? You are adept with justifications, just fill in the blank here:
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SB

Do not listen to people who insist on dredging up the marriage that was destroyed by your affair.

Star a new thread with a new question when that happens.

Also, suggest perhaps starting ANOTHER affair, which can add to the excitement and drama, as well as the pain and devastation of your current situation. This is BOUND to make things better.


Tex, have you learned NOTHING?


Can you POSSIBLY do yourself a teesy little favor and actually - just by a little teeny-tiny-weensy little teeny chance - READ the BASIC CONCEPTS of Marriage Builders?


Perhaps the idea of BUILDING a marriage is a foreign idea to you.


It does NOT start with drama, an affair, jealousy, or lies and deceit. That's just a hint, Tex.

Go forth and do your homework.


You will NOT find easy answers here.

Only the guide to HARD WORK.

And to actually CHANGING what you DO - toward an honest and actually


MORAL

way of living.

If you actually expect us to tell you to have a revenge affair, there are other websites for you.

Go elsewhere if that is what you want.

And so would a quiet one.

Wow! I was quoted like 26,000 times today. Who would guess?

Cheater marries cheater and then cheater cheats and cheater wants to know if cheating will make cheater come back to cheater...Did I get that right?

Texas777

Sir, are you Daft?

You have been told several times exactly what to do.

Expose!

However, since exposure is the absolute best way to kill an affair, I kinda hope you do not follow my advice becouse your affairage is an insult to a BS such as myself.

The best way to handle it is to expose the affair to everyone who knows your wife and the OM.

You've been told this already, but you won't listen, and you won't do it.

Are you going to keep asking? You're like my four year old. Maybe you'll get a different answer if you keep asking, right?

Heh ... in a couple years, my four year old will probably be better at this than you.

BA just keeps keepin' on!

Yup! I agree.

Texas, or whatever the hell your name is..

I wanted to update my situation tomight and in looking for my last post came across yours.

Let me tell you something buster, you're one sick ____.

If you have to come on here and ask that question, then the only thing I can say to you is following: Your moral compass has been eroded. I've been married to the same woman for 40+ years now. We are now having our problems, but if I even saw anyone like you around Her, I would pick you up physically and flatten you in most likely 15 seconds. That is most likely what your wife's OM wants to do to you, and that is why she probably knows you're so afraid of him.

Do yourself a favor, and also the people here who were apparently trying to help you, before you even think about trying to win your wife back and restore your marriage, go get yourself fixed!

Tom