Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes!

It was a great day. Evening before with my girls going out to see a great jazz singer at a local bistro. Sunday at church, with family and the kids.

Drac had the nerve to wish me Happy bday via text & bought a gift for DS to give me. Yep, spent a whopping $10 on cheap bath set in a smelly scent. I appreciated it only for DS's sake & for all DS knows, I was THRILLED with it!

Very busy at work again. Still stinging quite a bit over R. Although have found some information about narcissists that has helped. I've been meaning to share some of that & will do so when I can find the time.

Thanks again!!!

Sorry I'm late to the party, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Keep moving Bugs. You know how to get through this because you've done it before. And you know it just takes TIME. UGH, I hate hearing that too, but it's just a fact of the human emotional healing process. Makes me wish I was Vulcan (without the ears of course).

It was nice of Drac to send you a gift. And to spend so much money Wow. I wonder if his ho's get such nice gifts.

Use it on the dog.

How u b, Bugs?

Sorry I missed all the birthday wishes - happy belated birthday!

Anything new with you?

Fox

Happy St. Patrick's Day (early)!

Sorry I've been away from here for a while & have only stopped by a couple of times to check up on a few folks. It's funny, I got on last night to catch up. I neverlook at who is on line, but for some reason I did last night. Low and behold, I see that someone was reading my old Darkness Falls thread!

It kind of creeped me out. So much of what I went through on that thread seems so long ago & in other ways it's just below the surface. I started to go back & read some, but I'm just not up for it quite yet. I know it will be a mix of good & bad feelings for me. I intend to do it someday, as I think there well be a theraputic effect.

Drac & the latest Ho have broken up. At least for now (again). Seems she wants to get married and he doesn't?! I heard that she's crying around the office about how he's broken her heart. WEll, honey, what did you expect? You hooked up with a man who you helped your 'friend' have an affair with while he was married. She hit the bricks and you stepped in. What did you think you were getting into?

Ladybugs tells me that the ho is going to take HER to the movies next time she is at Daddy's. What? I don't care what drama they play out between themselves, but if I find out she asks ONE question about Drac to Ladybugs, I'm going to have to say something. I will NOT have her using my daughter. I'm sure he's silly enough to buy the 'I care so much for your daughter' BS she is feeding him when the fact is it's about staying in touch and getting him back.

Although I COULD be wrong. I doubt it.

So, as for today, things are good. I'm so blessed! Last week was quite a winner. Am getting a decent size tax return. Thank God! I'm getting a decent size bonus from last year. Praise God! And I have won a spot in the Circle of Excellence at work. I'm going on an all expenses paid trip to Key West next month! Whoo Hoo & Praise the Lord!

Tomorrow am taking the afternoon off to attend the local St Pat's Parade. Should be a fun time!

Oh, and am giving consideration to helping lead a Divorce Care Group at my church in the fall. I'm not sure yet about that, but it's been on my mind for a while. I'm going to keep praying about it and see.

What's the good with everyone? Chai got a job! Whoo howw! Would love to hear from everyone else!

Bugs!!!!

Glad to see you here!!!! And I realized that I missed thanking you on my thread. OMG, how could I forget you Bugs? You have been such an inspiration to me throughout all of this. So, my apologies that I missed you, but THANK YOU for showing me that there is a life after D. You are the poster child!


Congrats on all of the good things coming your way. Have fun in Key West. It's a fun place. You so deserve all of those good things.

And Drac? Well, I don't think anyone is surprised. He is looking for something he will never find because the problem is with him and he will never see it.

And the ho's go on.....and on.....

What a crock.

You sound great! Please keep us updated!

Hi Bugs,

I have now read your new thread ( as I knew 'something' was up with the old one...but didn't know what! )

...I think you are doing great with managing so soon yet another rollercoaster ride (and knowing that you 'can' doesn't help one bit in the pain department)



This made me laugh as Drac's attitude is very similar to my WS. I currently don't have a car, so WS recently offered me a ride to accompany DS14 to a track meet (minus the OP!) ...NOT! (I preferred the peace of mind offered by a very good public transportation system to get there!)

I guess in their world, you and I 'don't get it', as they seem to have no issue with being in contact/R with several women at the same time!.... as in my case, I suspect WS, because we have kids together, has 'negotiated' with OP that contact with me is 'legitimate' and part of his baggage OP has gotta accept...(as wasn't sacrificing his family for her enough?) ....NOT!

What a WS may be prepared to say to justify their actions can sometimes be just UNBELIEVABLE!

BUGS

Hi Chai!

You know you don't have to thank me for anything! Helping each other is just what we do. It works both ways & for that I am so thankful! You are a wonderful friend!

Luna - - yes, the WS will say anything to justify their actions. It's what they do.

Good for you in keeping your independence and making your own way to the track meet. I hope you have recognized your ever growing strength & independence!

So, it's Friday & I think you all deserve to share in the giggles I got yesterday via Drac.

To : Bugs
From: Drac
Subject: Hey

Hi Bugs,



What's a 'true sign' of wayward ways? ENTITLEMENT!



I bet I can guess where you stand with this Bugs!

He wants you to move, too? bbbbbbbwwaahaaa!

Really? You gotta be kidding.



Must be taking Waywardall.

Side effects may include brain cramps, delusions of grandeur, psychotic feelings of self importance, inability to string together logical thoughts, rampant entitlement, problems keeping your pants on, uncontrolled fear of morals, inability to answer any question without lying and a rash that says �STUPID� on your forehead.

If you take Waywardall and you experience any of these side effects shoot yourself immediately and do us all a favor.

LORD, HAVE MERCY!!!

Chris, you're killing me. You really are.

And Bugs, I do assume that means he wants you to move too? Where in the h3ll did that come from?

Drac has a LONG term prescription to Waywardall - obviously!

He mentioned something like this a year or so back - even went as far as to say that we could live down the street from one another! If he had his way we'd do also have back yard bar-b-que events together so I can meet his every changing string of *(*$(@#*().


I laughed out loud when I read the email. My response was, "What?"

He then proceeded to explain that his former boss that is in that city now called him "desperate" asking what it would take to get him to move there and run a site for him. Dracs' response was "My children"

See this way he plays the GREAT FATHER and is able to turn down the offer by putting it off on ME. That *I* won't move & he can't possibly leave his kids.

Now, I will admit that I know he loves his kids in his way. I know for the most part, it is important to him to see them (unless he has something HE wants to do at which time it's simple here to get a sitter).

But I just LOVE the entitlement & the way in which he chooses to bring up the subject! I have not replied. He did not come out and ask me if I would consider it, so no response is necessary.

For the sake of exercise, let's review -

The week of Ladybug's 6th birthday, I find out that he 'feels sorry for' a girl at work & hand delivers a dozen roses to her house. Poor thing is a single mom & is going to lose her job!!

Same week I find out he's secretly in counseling. But of course, the intent is for US to 'eventually' go together.

2 weeks later he moves out. But of course, there's no affair!

He tells the UNIVERSE he is in the process of a divorce. Unfortunately, *I* am no longer part of his universe.

New Years he had 'decided' to he wants to 'pursue a relationship with the Ho that he's NOT been having an affair with.

Ya know,,,,I thought I could rattle through the list of the last 3 years that got worse as time went on, but the 1 month I've just described is sufficient for the purposes of this exercise.

Cut to the bottom line and ask the obvious question " WHY would I uproot my entire life that *I* have built to move to X city because YOU have a job opportunity?"

Seriously? What am I missing here??

Oh my gosh, Chrisner you are a riot!

Bugs,

I seriously think it's time for a really, really BIG Plan FU. This arsewhole needs to be blown back into reality at the speed of the Starship Enterprise.

There aren't enough censored words that I can type to describe this dude.

Dont hold back now Chai

Bugs, I only just figured out you had a new threadas well. R is an *ss and so is Drac. I get what you mean about him living his kids in his 'own way'. I have that as well with my X. {{{bugs}}}

...and CL's 'words' go for me, too!

...I came to the Board a 'little down'....but Drac's ridiculous behaviour along with some posters' reactions have got me.....

Thanks for sharing Bugs!

Oops. I guess I didn't mean to be so harsh Bugs. I couldn't help it. Something about that just rubbed me the wrong way.

In fact, waywards rub me the wrong way.

Maybe I just took a little too much Betrayedall last night

No worries, Chai. I didn't think it harsh at all.

It really is ridiculous.

Did I bother to post that the latest Ho is out of the picture? I think I did. Seems she is telling the entire office how SURPRISED and broken hearted she is. What did she expect taking sloppy seconds from her 'friend' & who she helped perpetrate the adultery?


Well, true to my prediction just after this happened, Drac is now pursuing one of Ladybugs'friend's Mom. She is widowed & recently split with her boyfriend (who she had living with her and her DD). I told my friends & family it was only a matter of time before he went after that,,,,,,,,,,,well guess who is at Drac's over playing cards tonight? I only know because Ladybugs told me when she called. Of course she is thrilled to have someone over to play.

Just Thursday we were joking around & I asked her what she wanted ( I was talking about dinner). She replied, "I want you & Daddy to get back together". It still comes out from time to time & out of the blue. Of course she does not tell Drac this and that's ok. I want her to feel comfortable with at least one of us in sharing her feelings. I guess this is something that will never truly go away for her.

I would say 'amazing' when it comes to Drac pursing another woman & having her at the hosue so soon, but it no longer is amazing. It's just typical. I gotta laugh, because I know how volatile the 'friendship' is between the girls. Her daughter is frankly, a spoiled brat. I can understand how it happened, with losing her father - - but it won't bode well for a relationship between them.

Thank goodness, it's not really my problem. Other than what has become the ususal fallout with Ladybugs from his ever revolving door of women. I think it was right after HO1 left that DSS made the comment that he just can't get close to anyone, because he never knows how long they will be around. He went on to say how thankful he is that we are still family. It broke my heart and warmed it all at the same time.

Am going to finish cleaning up my paint mess for tonight. Am painting downstairs bedroom. Started with the trim today. I completely took down a door, took of the knob, painted, and got it back up all by myself! Am SO proud!

Hope all of you are having a good weekend!