talked to his dad and sister

H is home. She (OW) is moving to other city this summer.
He said there is no affair.
I think he means nothing physical but I do not feel too good.
I need to have a happy home for my kids, but
I do not feel want to see him come back.
What do I do?

call the Harley Coaching Center?

Yes. Call them.

You need the truth. Remember, you cannot trust your husband to tell the truth until later, if then.

Find your passport. If he is worried, that means he thinks you will find something that will make you go home. He does not understand your culture, I think.

Please answer why you do not want private investigator?

Larry

I just don't FEEL spying is right thing to do.
I asked him if I can read his call log before I read it, I asked him if I can call his friend before I called.

Also, I do not know why, but I do believe in him when he said they kept their hands in their pockets.

I have not seen his smile in 3 weeks. I feel so empty now.
He said it is a wake up call.
?

His sister talked to him before he got home.

So your feeling is better than what the professionals have to say? So your feeling that he didn't go all the way with sex is truth? Feelings?

I feel that you do not want to know the truth. Is my feeling the truth? I feel that you are afraid to know the truth. Is my feeling the truth? You are giving me this poor weak girl stuff. And I do not think so. You are a woman, not a poor, weak girl.



I understand the wake up call.

It means your marriage is in trouble and needs help. Do you now understand?

Call the Harley Coaching Center.

Your husband is at least having an emotional affair. And that is very bad news. When someone is in an affair, they lie. So you really don't know.

Larry

What did they talk about? Did he tell you?

Mail, you are confused. You are playing head games with yourself. Even as much as I know about your culture and what you are probably thinking, I do not have the ability to help you very much. I have to guess to much.

Call the Harley Coaching Center.

Larry

I am confused. He was good for a couple days, when we have nothing serious discussed. And, This morning when I talked to him, and remind him my current LB and he turned into a different person. Then he started to be mad about I talk to his family and John. Also, he said I should have a plan but not including him, becaue the build ups and we are non-compatible, so he is done. He said everything should come natural, not require anyone to change.

I want to make appointment with Coaching Center, but Ed is not interested in any of these, he refuse this all along. He wants nothing fixed and nothing to do with me. Should I talk to Coaching Center? What do they do?


So, What should I do NOW and for how long?

Should I try not to talk to him at all? He said why I am interested in what he is doing now? I told him I always do, but sometime when I ask him, he did not say much at all and did not seems want to talk abou it, so I quite asking hom anymore.

He said I was not interested and always interrupt him or I walked away before he ws done talking. He said he has not really tell me anythng for almost 2 years. I do not even fell like that long, when he is home, our kids are home too. I really can not just sit there and listen. I have to overseeing our kids.

Anyway, Now he will not tell me he likes or dislike any of my behaviors. and I feel strange to do anything around him either, becaue I am worrired he will say something like "why you are doing it now"? or find some reasons and only giave me negative comments.

***What should I do NOW and for how long?

I do not know. Maybe just ask him what is going on? I did not talk to his mom, only he did. After that, he told me it is a wake up call. But during this weekend, he thinks I mention something to our kids, so he was very angury. And I am not happy because he just assume it must be me.

Mail:


Yes.

They help you form a plan.

He is manipulating you. Find your passport or get another one because you may need it.

You do not know what to do next. You are confused. I have tried to explain to you what to do and you do not understand. This is why I have suggested you call the coaching center so they can talk to one on one in private so they can get more information and help you to understand your husband and what to do.

Please, again, call the coaching center. It does not matter what your husband wants to do at this point. He is as confused as you are but for different reasons. As a male, he is going to refuse help until he has no other choice.

Call the coaching center Mail. Do it today.

When you come here to vent you accomplish nothing. You need a plan. I cannot help you with a plan because I do not know enough. Call the coaching center.

Did I mention call the coaching center?

Larry

I did call the coaching center.
we misplaced our passports, sorry, I did not post earlier.

His sister recently divorced who told me "frind" can not make him leave his family. It must be his unhappyness lead to this. She suggested me to think for myself.

His dad divorce 2 years ago, I do not think he will involved too much.

His mom, I do not know I should talk to or not because she might blame him, and tell me it is nor worth it to fix any problems.

The other woman moved with her husband to other town in the end of May. My H was sad for no one to love anymore, and feel stupid because of loving someone who just wanted to cheat. He knew about her past cheating history, and she was laughing how stupid her husband is.


We are seeing a counselor here. But I do not feel our relationship is going anywhere. Last month was better, when we traveling with kids and had a lot of fun.
Now, school started, he is close off again.
I can not get him to "talk" to me.
Yesterday, we were seeing our counselor, he changed his answer about what he wants to do again. End of June, he wanted to try to work on our marriage for a year. Now, he doesn't feel any changes, and want to be leave alone.

He said he doesn't feel want to give me a hug or a kiss because he lost that feeling. He knows it is inside of him somewhere, but now he can not doing anything nice for me, because he does not feel he want to. And he doesn't want to fake it. (Doing nice things when he doesn't feel want to is faking.)

I feel hurt and I am starting to withdrawal. I want to either start a fight or not talk/ see him.

Could someone give me a direction?

Thank you all!

Yes! I would use the Marriage Builders program to restore romantic love to your marriage. You can do this several ways, the fastest horse is to do the online program here

or sign up for counseling here: coaching center

Or do it yourself by following the program in the books, Lovebusters, Surviving an Affair and His Needs Her Needs. Get the workbook called 5 Steps to Romantic Love:
here

Here is an outline of the program: How to Create Your Own Plan to Resolve Conflicts and Restore Love to Your Marriage