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WH and I talked today, he knows i read this website. He does not agree that the A was an addiction and is having a really hard time forgetting her. (Its been almost 2 weeks since they last spoke) he thinks what I am reading is not true. Has anyone out there been in a similar situation and their WS came around? He keeps saying "he's trying to stay with me" and "I'm not calling her", etc.
Me: BS 30
WH: 32
Married: 4 Yrs
Together: 14 Yrs
Dday: May 2009
FR: MANY
A: Online EA turned PA January 2009 and again May 2009
FRMLY: Hopeful30
To all WS: "Sometimes we miss happiness by looking too far for things nearby."
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Yes,
My WW thinks she's got a better plan than this site has but she can't tell me what it is....
I believe in the MB principles ....... Stick with your Plan-A, Expose if you haven't already, and get that NC in place ......
Don't trust him .....keep snooping to make sure he's not talking to her....... otherwise he'll get to start his withdrawal all over again .....and nobody wants that
Me BS 54
XWW 51 Divorce final 1/9/12
DS26 DS24 Twin DD's22 Married 29years
D-dates No1 01/2007, No2 08/2008(ongoing)
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Are you following the MB plan? Has the affair been exposed? Have you asked hubby to write a no contact letter?
Of course he doesn't believe the affair is an addiction. Of course he doesn't believe what you are reading here is true. He has been having an affair and it is USELESS to try to reason with him.
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A drunk who regularly gets drunk doesn't think he's an alcoholic either - until he sobers up.
Tell him - talk to me about addiction when you've been clean from her for a few months. But enough about that. Now - can I cook *********** for dinner? (make it something he absolutely loves).
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WH and I talked today, he knows i read this website. He does not agree that the A was an addiction and is having a really hard time forgetting her. (Its been almost 2 weeks since they last spoke) he thinks what I am reading is not true. Has anyone out there been in a similar situation and their WS came around? He keeps saying "he's trying to stay with me" and "I'm not calling her", etc. What kind of guy is he? Is he a factual, engineering type of guy? One who believes in science and all that stuff? If he is, tell him to come over here and let me and Mark1952 get with him. We will show him exactly how infatuation works as an addiction and why it works that way and how it never lasts and why that is too. I am a guy and Mark is a guy. We can tell him in guy language. Larry
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