Now here is a website I would have liked when I was 10.

Although we found many ways to abuse Estes rockets and many unapproved uses of their engines.

Let's Blow Things UP!!

But at least they were outside in the fresh air.

I think we should have a moment of silence for all the insects lost, due to having to get out of our mothers' hair...

three sons - legos everywhere.
worms are broughtinside as "pets" and ordered outside almost daily. As are rolly polly bugs and snails..sigh.

Also - nerf gun darts everywhere. and i cant tell you how many times a week I come home

Ridic - your a strong women doing what is needed for your family. Reading your story I am sorry you are here. I generally keep to the safety of the In Recovery board but your story compelled me to comment. Stay strong! As a WS I want to shake other WS and say - wake up stupid....

Our mothers had insects in their hair?

Criminy! I edited it once, trying to word it better - you should've seen what I started with! !

I liked the idea of moms having insects in their hair.

Once, my Mom was cleaning my room and heard a noise in my lego box. She opened it and found a SNAKE. It was a gardener snake that I was going to sell to my friend for 4 dollars. My Mom HATES snakes(now I do too)

sorry for the t/j rid

I can't even be in the same room as a snake now.

I used to put worms in my mouth to freak out my friends too. I didn't eat them, I spit them out. Now I hate when it rains and I see worms on the sidewalk.

Isn't it funny how we change as we grow?

used to put june bugs in my mouth - carefully - cause I like to feel the fluttering of their wings on the inside of my mouth.
Also used to put a tring around a june bug and keep it as a "pet"

and if I recall rightly - ant have a spicey crunch to them...

I'll bet a good old fashioned Texas fire ant has a spicy crunch alright.


Is there therapy for that?

Also used to tie a piece of thread around a june bugs leg gently using a slip not and would "walk my pet june bug" used to bump into walls and such

i didnt hurt them...i let them go afterwards...i would put them in my mouth but not close it all the way...you could see the wings flapping between my teeth (kinda like the cat women when she put the penguinds pet bird in her mouth then let it go and it flies out unharmed) it tickled is all thats why I did it.

This of course brings to mind the day I get a call from my neighbor. My youngest is naked in the yard
Hanging his naked butt over the sprinkler
and laughing and going...IT TICKLES....IT TICKLES.

Since we are middle class americans - he had never experienced a budai before...

i used to catch snakes and lizards and keep them as pets...put them on a hot water bottle filled with water = it was the lizards "water bed"...

now I dont MIND worms in my house...its finding worm body parts later that annoys me...best to keep critters outside...little boys leave the grossest things laying around and in their pockets and in their backpacks...Every day is an adventure.

I may have done unspeakable things to lightning bugs when I was little. They glow when you smush them. Or so I've heard.

Okay- today's update. Told him he needed to be out of the house today, and that I don't care where he goes.

he has changed tactics- he would like me to write a letter to his OW, and tell her that I give her permission to speak to him. If I would do that, he would be all better.

I think he's delusional- and doesn't understand that I am not what's keeping her away from him.

He had a doc appointment this morning- don't know how it went. He did tell me that therapy willr esult in the doctor telling him he should be with the other woman and not me, and I shouldn't want him to go to therapy because of that.

He also told me that going to therapy will make him a drug addict. Super.

So, yeah, well.

Okay. He just texted me after therapy and says the the psych told him he is dissastified with me and his relationship with me. But that his relationship with the other woman made him happy and satisfied, and he was willing to risk everything for it.

So, I am not sure what that means for me. I think that's probably bad news.

I think you should talk to his therapist! Sounds like a bag full of poop to me....(ever put poop in a paper bag and trow it when you were little too?)

Im not sure a threapist would say something like that. I think it is a half truth from your WH. He is dissatissfied with his marriage, and the OW did satisfy his needs. His therapist proabably said that. BUT! What else did the therapist say, you know the important part that he is leaving out?

I assume the C was just trying to restate what he is feeling to understand what he is saying, nothing more. He takes that as advice.

Actually this is very good news - it shows he is a completely normal WS, is behaving like they all do, and so the MB program has a great chance of success.

If you read the infidelity articles on here, on how affairs end, the Harleys' say that usually the WS will bargain to keep the OP in the loop somehow.

That is what hubby is doing, and even though he seems completely whacked out to you and I, he is only following the script. WS's get VERY delusional. We have seen some here who want to move the OP in with the spouse and family, who tell their spouse that the spouse would really like the OP, who bring the OP to the HOSPITAL to see their wife's newborn! NOTHING surprises me any more.

Your best bet is to detach from him and go do something useful and more fun, like scrubbing the toilets. Hang in there. Come here and let us know all about his latest delusion.

It is?

Oh my gosh. I just thought it meant the psych was agreeing with him, and telling him I sucked and our marriage sucked, and there he goes.

The therapist is supposed to be really, really good. I just have to believe that the therapist will explain to him that an affair, and that relationship, wasn't real. So what satisfied him could never withstand the reality test.

I mean- look what happened when I exposed. She got a restraining order.