Hi all,

Remember how exWW made up some false charges and had me arrested back in May? Well, it came back to bite her in the rear end again.

In my role at work, I am the point of contact for my comapny to maintain their license to distribute pharmaceuticals in all 50 states. Each state has their own regulations - my name gets put on the aplication since I run the distribution center. Included are full background screenings, etc. The arrest went down right at the same time as our licenses were being renewed. As a result, a couple were rejected, I had to explain my sitch to our regulatory affairs folks, legal had to get involved. Basically, a huge headache for all involved.

Anyways, I had my 2009 performance review and I got my worst review ever. The big ding against me was the license issues. If I had gotten a rating similar to what I normally get, my bonus would have been double than normal because we had an awesome year due to us taking advantage of production issues with some of our competition. This would have come out to about 18% more income added to my monthly income for child support purposes. After everything is run through the CS calculator, it will end up costing exWW about $100 in additional support.

Moral of the story? In a situation where you are child support recipient, you better think twice before pulling the abuse card as it could effect the income that comes in to pay the child support YOU are receiving.

That slow, dripping sound you hear is my heart bleeding for her. Will she find out what she did to herself? I hope so.

tl

This reminds me of a scene from a book, Hiding Place, something or other..

The main character's sister gives thanks for everything, even the numerous fleas (they are in a filthy concentration camp).

The MC says, "There is no way even GOD can make me grateful for a flea!"

Later on they figure out--the guards will not come into a certain room because of the fleas, so the women are safe.

I think you just got thankful for the fleas, PSU...

(I am terribly sorry about this comparison...my mind comes up with the weirdest things...)

"I had my 2009 performance review and I got my worst review ever. The big ding against me was the license issues. If I had gotten a rating similar to what I normally get, my bonus would have been double"

Time to set the lawyer on WW and sue her for your lost wages due to her false charges.

I would do it even she could not afford to pay. Didn't WW already just file bankruptcy? If she did she file this debt will not be able to be discharged.

Agreed.

TR - you totally rock!!!!!!!!!

I agree with the others--time to sue for damages. These are REAL damages, spelled out in black and white.

Hi all,

We had the contempt hearing for exWW not paying daycare or medical expenses as ordered by the court. As such, my exWW was found in contempt for not paying. So, the commissioner ordered a $50/mo wage attachment for her until it is paid off. It will take her over two years to pay it off. For those of us keeping score at home, my exWW now has three contempt charges against her since June 2009:

1. Filing false protection orders (ordered to pay PSUBIKER $940)
2. Intentionally interfering with my parental rights (will be ordered to pay PSUBIKER about $600)
3. Failure to pay court ordered medical expenses and daycare. (Payment of $1423 paid via wage attachment)

I also got some good news from the judge handling the divorce. As exWW has filed for bankruptcy and putting into question the $940 payment, I was worried that the 2nd contempt charge will go through in her bankruptcy too. As such, the judge issued a letter today stating he will delay the order of payment of attorney fees until after her bankruptcy is discharged. ExWW won't be able to weasel out of it now.

Way to go, PSU.

Karma's starting to kick her butt now.

As part of the custody order, both of us were ordered to attend co parenting counseling together. So, about a week ago I scheduled us to see a counselor tonight. The original plan was to have exMIL to watch the kids.

During the weekend, exWW dropped hints that exMIL didn't want to drive down to watch the kids due to weather. Then, while we were waiting for the hearing yesterday, exWW kept asking me if I could change the time so the kids wouldn't get home late. She was also complaining about how dumb it was we had had to go to counseling.

This afternoon, I got a call from exWW saying she couldn't make it to counseling as she has bald tires and had to get them changed. I am not surprised one bit that she backed out. Another example of a wayward not wanting to face the truth.

Perhaps her avoiding the cour-order counseling can be considered as contempt of court...

Couple of comments

when this crap dies down - need to write a book and perhaps think of a law career.

Your tenacity is unbelievable in the midst of this tornado.

I'll ghost-write it for you, even!

(Hehe.)

"Justice Among Horses"

I've been thinking about going to law school. Money is a huge issue but more than that is just the time. Perhaps in a year or two I'll explore the possibility closer.

I still think the counseling was a good idea - it will be really mind racking but I think longterm the kids will benefit. Unfortunately, I don't think she sees it that way. Her loss.

As for contempt on this, at the end of 8 sessions or so, the counselor writes a letter to the judge stating who attendended and when and whether they cancelled etc. Either way, it gets back to the judge.

Well at the very least, you're still pretty young so you have a bit of time.

Well, as far as school goes, fill out a fafsa. For undergrads, the 2010-2011 school year is lowered to 4.9%. For the 2011-2-12 it will be 3.8%! THen it will go back up to 6% but this is still the best way to afford school.

I am finishing up my Specialist in Visual Arts Education. The only thing left is PhD. But I have reached the top of my payscale, and it is hard to justify the tuition.

Side note: PSUB:
Please stay on Patriots thread. I refuse to post, due to the hystrionics> sp? going on there. But you know the truth, what is really going to happen, and he needs a voice of reason. I would love to post something, but I said I QUIT!

I am afraid they are going to bully Pat into a situation he has not thought out yet. I agree with Dr.H's advice. HE should know, dealing with A's for as long as he has, I am sure he has faced this kind of scanario before.

PSUBIKER has been a very busy beaver over the last few weeks. Just a quick recap, exWW and I were ordered to take counseling together to enhance our coparenting and communication skills. Last Wednesday was the first time we went together.

The exWW started out first by stating that she does not agree at all with the wording in the custody order. She started to go into her histrionics. At one point the counselor told exWW that she is a good salesman because she interrupts people, jumps to conclusions, and puts words into people�s mouths. Basically, the counselor wasn't buying any of the stuff exWW was spewing. At one point, exWW told the counselor she was being abusive to her! ExWW kept telling the counselor that she was in mortal fear just sitting in the room with me. The counselor told her PSUBIKER is just sitting there quietly with his hands in his lap while you go off on how horrible of a person he is!

One interesting piece of information gleaned from the session was exWW was supposedly having surgery on her neck the next day and she had health insurance through Maryland Medicaid. Why is this interesting? She swore UP AND DOWN during the custody hearing that she was a Delaware resident and thus no change in custody was warranted. My question is, how can someone receive Medicaid benefits in one state while being a resident in another?

Either way, it is pretty much a moot point now. She agreed that DD5 should go to kindergarten at the Charter School that DS 7 goes to. All you need to be is a resident of Delaware for the school and PSUBIKER isn�t planning on leaving DE any time soon. This is big for me too � I�ll be able to cut daycare costs by about $400 / mo since both kids will be going to the same school.

I went to an individual session with the counselor last night. After what she witnessed the previous week with my exWW, the counselor said I was one of the most emotionally abused men she has seen in a long time. She does DV counseling too. I had played her some of the voicemails as well as the tape from the 5/9 incident. She was in shock with what she heard. The topper for the counselor was when I told her about me getting snipped then three days later exWW asking for a divorce.

I told the counselor it was pretty obvious exWW had been talking to POSOM prior to the session as during the past couple of weeks she has been calling me while she is between sales calls in her new job and has been extremely cordial and in fact asking for business and customer service advice from me when she calls. She used to do this when she worked prior to kids. The counselor suspects strongly exWW has a personality disorder. Ya think?!?!?!

The other big thing was getting our 2008 taxes refilled before exWW�s bankruptcy is dismissed. I had filed married / separate back in 2/2009 for my 08 taxes. I knew I would take a huge tax hit but exWW had said she was going to file and claim the kids so I beat her to the punch. I had agreed in April to retile with us filing jointly. Finally, exWW got me enough info so I could fill out the Schedule C for her business and sleep easy knowing that if the IRS audits us, they�ll l find more deductions than I claimed.

While I was putting together her transactions from 8/08-12/08, I found out exWW paid close to $1500 in vet bills, blacksmith bills, and cash to open a bank account for POSOM. Ironically, she was found in contempt of failing to pay $1400 in combined daycare and medical expenses for the kids. I hope POSOM was worth getting a contempt charge for failing to support your kids!

It's called fraud.

Hey, Isn't that illegal?